I broke up with him even though I do love him and he loves me. I had to! How can I move on from someone I can't find a reason to hate?

I understand how you feel, honestly, I had to let go of people I loved too. It hurts a lot but you find a way to get through it, find distractions and what not. Whatever you do, you can never forget that you’re never alone. You don’t have to find a reason to hate them, rather find ways to distance yourself.

Learn and do your passion , what you like to do and have passion and patience in it, such as him , act those activities as the joy of your life and gradually through time it will ease over and have a new beginning in life.

It sounds like that you had a difficult time making this decision to separate yourself from him because of how much you were connected to him emotionally. What factors may have influenced this decision for you?

You don't have to hate someone to move on, in fact you don't have to do anything really. Moving on is more of a time thing than a mental/emotional thing... meaning that you have to find a way to give moving on time for you to actually move on rather than giving time to feelings/emotions that remind of your relationship. Giving time to moving on means giving time to activities that take your focus away from thinking about your relationship. Does this mean you will never think of them again? No, it means that instead of hating yourself for thinking about them again and then spiraling down into deep sadness, you will actually think "hmmm, well at least I am doing all of these things that are helping me move on." Definitely easier said than done, however, just get out there and do anything that you've been wanting to, use the internet to help you figure out how, and dont try to make your first attempt perfect!

I once broke up with someone who was a great partner. We both loved one another but sometimes love isn't enough. I knew down the road that marriage was not where were we were headed if both of us were to be truly happy. My love for them was so true that I knew they would be happier in the end if they fell in love with someone else. Just because you love someone and they love you does not mean the two of you should be together. True happiness is needed from both sides in the long run.

You know your situation the best. I can tell you feel a little confused and hurt, you had to move on from someone you had no reason to hate. That is a hard situation to be in. What do you think could help you to move on? What could you do to help you get over him. Think of some things in your life you could do to help you out of this tough situation. It would be hard to break up with someone. You know your feelings and your situation the best. I will be here to listen.

I know how it feels to end a relationship you feel really shouldn't have ended, especially when you both may still love each other. Sometimes, things happen for reasons you might not know for a long time, but those reasons are always beneficial in the long run. Love isn't something that can be turned off by a switch, but you will find your groove. It's a process, but with time even the sharpest thrones become soft. You can't force yourself to move on from someone, you can't even make the process easier, but one day you're going to wake up and it will all be okay again.

I would first ask yourself, “why you broke up”, once you answer that, then ask yourself ,”what is keeping me attracted to X person.” Sorting out how you feel may aid in further decisions. You can also surround yourself with people who are positive influence on you, and that you enjoy to spend time with, friends, family, pets. Break ups are difficult, but very much manageable. As far as finding a reason to hate someone, I would also ask yourself, do you want to stay friends with this person or would you rather have minimal contact with that person, and if you want to move on from romantic feelings and/or Platonic feelings.

We can start to move on from those we have loved by remembering how to love ourselves. We are the source of our love. We can share it with others but we must generate it for ourselves. You may still love him, but there was something else strong enough inside of you telling you that the love was not enough to stay in the relationship. We have to listen to that small voice inside of us, even when we do not like what it says. Make time for the things you like to do that help you to feel good about being alive.

There must of been a reason for you to break up with him. Maybe something happened and then when you broke up feelings came rushing back. Are you definitely wishing to move on because if you are both in love with each other wouldn’t it make sense to become a couple again. However if you are wishing to move on maybe it’s best to distance yourself from him for a little while so it can give you time to really think about what you want and what you feel is best for you. You may even find out that you would like to restart this relationship