I broke up with him even though I do love him and he loves me. I had to! How can I move on from someone I can't find a reason to hate?

First of all, that is very difficult and I am sorry that you are going through this. It is hard! In my personal experience, I have had to focus on myself rather than my ex. To focus on myself, I made time for me to do nothing, read, write, or workout. Do what you love to do, whatever that may be. Focusing on yourself will allow you to let go and move on from him. I also reached out to friends and family members who have gone through similar experiences for their advice. That was super helpful in the beginning.

Breaking up is hard, moving on is harder, this is normal, sometimes relationships can't work out because of reasons you can't get control of. Just wish each other the best, you don't have to find a reason to hate. You can move on by stopping contacting him in the meantime, and find other new places where you can meet new people and make new friends. Distract yourself by doing anything that you love or learning anything you want to learn. You can also engage in volunteering and curricular activities, I've been there and it completely changed my life to better and I managed to develop myself from experience. So you can do this too, you just need to have a strong intention.

Focus on where you are going and what you left the relationship to find, rather than why you left. You don't have to hate somebody to leave a relationship. You don't need any reason at all. But it's pretty common to move on when a relationship no longer meets our needs, or our individual journey takes us in a direction the other person's journey isn't taking them. It's okay to be sad about leaving. It's okay to be happy for the time you had together. And it is okay to honor and cherish the time you got to spend with that person, how they made you feel, how they helped you to grow. And the positive impact you had on them.

It is okay that you can't find a reason to hate him. You spent valuable time together that should be cherished. You did what you had to do and that is awesome, serious kudos to you! Moving on will take time and I hope that you can be gentle with yourself during the process. Grieving relationships look different for everyone. Put your focus and energy on the things that bring you comfort and joy. Heal the best you can and when you are ready to get back out there for love, you'll know it. Best of luck to you dear!

You don't need to hate someone in order to move on. Give yourself time away from them, even if you're planning on staying friends, and allow him to do the same. Do things you love, whether that be art, reading, sports, theater, music, etc. Reinvest in yourself and your passions. Practice self care - try a mask, go exercise, focus on getting adequate rest, commit to writing down a few things you love about yourself each day (whatever is most beneficial for you). Strengthen your connections with friends and family. Whenever you want to talk, reach out! Trust your feelings and thoughts as valid, they don't need to be justified to anybody. Be patient with yourself! It's completely normal to have good and bad days back to back, or go through periods of missing him and feeling better.

This has happened to me too. Sometimes when you love a person too much, you become blind. I also thought that he loved me as much as I loved him. But then I realized if we really loved each other, why didn’t it work? Why did it end in the first place? Did you really love the person? Or is it an illusion of connection that replaces real relating and genuine acts of love and intimacy? Time will heal and you do not have to find a reason to hate him in order for you to move on. When we’re stuck in the pain and confusion of a break up, we often forget to take care of ourselves. Remember to take this time to take care of yourself.

If you had to then you’ve realised that something needs to change, self growth and self love is one of the best ways to move on, make a list of things you would like to accomplish that would bring you more job and happiness, of course relationships are an important aspect in many people’s lives but being separated allows a wide breadth of progress to occur, spend time with friends and family that you can trust and talk to, this is helpful when trying to move on, although you do not hate this person there is a reason for the break, you have made a massive step already for self growth, continue to flourish and enjoy your life!

Keeping busy is always a great way to take your mind off of things. I usually like to focus on schoolwork and on my hobbies. I also would suggest listening to music, which is another great way to get your mind off of things. In addition, I like to talk to my friends about it so that way, I get it off my chest (your friends will always be supportive no matter what, and it's always nice to know that you have people who support and will help you regardless of the situations you're in). All of these things would help keep your mind off of things! Breaking up is definitely hard, but it is necessary sometimes.

Its okay to go through hard decisions, life’s full of challenges ....sometimes you are enjoying a beautiful moment and sometimes we end up in a bad situation. As quickly as joy ends similarly hardships also end as quickly as joy does ...of course it will take time to heal ....you will have to be strong and brave and keep your head up. Remember that even if you didn’t hate him, there is a reason you two are not together ...trust life and remember that everything happens for our own good.

I understand how you feel. Letting go of someone you still love can never be an easy thing to do. But I am sure you chose what was best for you when you decided to break up with him. I am here to help you to go through this journey by giving a listening ear everytime you experience sadness as a result of your emotions. I am pretty sure that you chose your self first when you decided to end things and you know the kind of partner you want to be with. Never feel bad about choosing your self.