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I broke off my engagement. I don't even know what to do now. Where do I go from here?

Profile: BeSerene
BeSerene on Jun 22, 2015
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its hard i know what you are going through its like challenging your own self worth for losing in most genuine and truthful wish to be together. Its hard to move along while part of you is still lingers and yearns for someone that you actually cared about.
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Profile: Batman93
Batman93 on Sep 22, 2015
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Letting go of someone you once cared about is difficult. It hurts now and it probably will for some time. But there's no wound that time cannot heal. Endure now, and try move on. Keep small small goals in life, and eventually build yourself. We're all here to support you in your journey.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 13, 2016
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First take time to look back and learn from the experience and regain yourself. The if you think you are ready and have got things back to normal maybe try and find someone else or reach for another goal in life.
Profile: Moon79
Moon79 on Jan 23, 2016
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I believe you are doing exactly what you are supposed to be doing. You followed your hearr, and now you have a blank canvas to continue to follow it. Day by day. Starr with focusing on yourself and everything else will fall into place :)
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 28, 2016
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it's important to remember that there's nothing that a person can't come back from. ending a longterm relationship can often feel impossible to move forward from-- especially when we've spent so long with this person that they have become interwoven with how we view ourselves and our futures. one of the kindest things you can do for yourself is beginning to figure out again who you are outside of this relationship. returning to old hobbies, reconnecting with friends and family, and finding new things to involve yourself in can all help you regain a sense of identity. make sure to look out for yourself, and remember that moving on from something isn't a linear path. it isn't about feeling better every single day-- it's about making steady progress, even if some days feel worse than others. all of it is a part of healing.
Profile: maskedanonymous
maskedanonymous on Feb 23, 2016
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Find yourself. Find who you are, take care of yourself, learn to love yourself, sort out your feelings. Live. That's what you should do. ;)
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 7, 2016
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That's a big step, first you should think about why you chose to break off the engagement. I have also ended a long relationship recently and I understand that it can be very hard. It is easy to feel lost, but you can move past this by reflecting on the engagement and realizing that something must have prompted you to break it off.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 8, 2016
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When something like an engagement is broken, it seems like you end up losing a lot of things. The future that you've envisioned for a while is gone and it's only natural to feel a little lost after that. But don't worry, things will heal in time. You can start to see a new future that doesn't depend on this engagement. Some things you might consider: delve into your hobbies, your career, reconnect with your family and friends. Try to remember what you had a life outside of this engagement.
Profile: Fraz
Fraz on Sep 26, 2016
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Wherever you want to. Breaking off an engagement isn't the end of the world. You just need to set your priorities right and go from there.
Profile: JD821
JD821 on Aug 21, 2017
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I would immediately and quickly as possible have friends help get your things, you want to make this as less awkward as possible and as painless as possible. Anything you two share, like property, a lease, etc. Figure that out when you're cool calm and collected, as trying to act when emotional always escalates. Once you two have that situated, it's time to move on your separate paths, rediscover yourselves, and the rest will follow. Friends and family are there to support you.
Profile: TeamSpirit
TeamSpirit on Oct 22, 2019
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With any loss of a relationship, no matter how long you were together or the level of intimacy; its important to get to know yourself better, rediscover hobbies and try new things. Karaoke, new recipes, travel somewhere new. Start up a journal and write down your thoughts! Over time, you may find it easier to wake up and not think about it. One day, you may feel ready to move on. In order to get there, trying to part ways with sentimental items that remind you of them, and lean on your support system could really help. Not to mention the best remedy is to eat LOTS of ice cream!
Profile: Rooibos14
Rooibos14 on Jan 27, 2020
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Breaking off an engagement is difficult. For whatever reason you took a brave step and did something that most future brides, in whatever predicament they find themselves in, cannot do. For that I will say I am proud of you. You know what is best for you and you have already made a move in the direction you feel is whats in your best interest. From here, you carry on. You aim in the direction that will make your heart happy and fulfilled. No one can tell you where to go or how to feel, your future is in your hands. Trust in yourself, you know what you need to do.
Profile: Remina
Remina on Jun 2, 2020
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Breaking off an engagement can definitely be stressful because now life is different. You have probably built a life with the person you were going to marry. The first step would be to let everyone know that the wedding is off and return any possible gifts that were given to you. Also, finding yourself a new place to live away from him would be a good idea. You also want to make sure that you are taking care of yourself during this time. It is okay to feel upset over this. You loved the person and you probably thought it would work out. You can take the time to grieve the end of a chapter before you start a new one.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 21, 2021
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Grow. It was a thing of the past. Have a self care day, go on a road trip and do all the things you like. Accept and try to let go. Maybe it was the right decision. Just do things that will help you move on from this phase and remember to never look back
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