How to talk to your boyfriend about marriage?

How to approach such a delicate matter is what I think for me is honesty. Find somewhere a place and time where your boyfriend has time for you, and where his emotions are stronger, best, in my opinion, is a bed, couch, or any place you are stronger in an emotional way. There you have his full attention, The way I asked my own boyfriends was is too painful to ask how he sees the future with us. Depending on his answer you can react with a more general reaction, not focussing on the marriage. Ask him what about our future? what do you think about having kids our own house marriage and so.

Okayyy. I strongly believe that couples should talk about their plans for the future, even before they get into a relationship. But if you never had the chance to do that, now is a great time. Yes, now! Find out what his plans are for the next 1, 3 or 5 year(s). Ask questions like: Where would you like to live? What age would be a good age to get married? At what age would you like to have children? Don’t just interrogate him but share your plans and vision for the future too. If his plans for the next 5 years totally deviate from yours then this might be a good indication that your relationship won’t last. I know this one is a scary one because you fear that he doesn’t see you in his future. But isn’t that the point of this conversation? Wouldn’t you want to know and more importantly move on if he doesn’t see you or marriage in his future? Find out rather earlier than later.

Before you consider talking about marriage with your boyfriend, ensure that you are ready for this huge step yourself. If you are, congratulations! Bring it up lightly and with no expectations - you don't want to build yourself up and end up getting hurt if he's not ready. If he does dismiss your desire to be married, don't let it get to you. He still loves you, he just isn't ready for that life step yet - consider finding other aspects of your relationship that will make you feel closer. Don't focus on trying to change his mind, as hard as it may be. Focus on enjoying your relationship and the time will come that he gets down on one knee for you!! ;)

When it comes to marriage we have to understand it is a very sensitive topic . It is something that changes ones life completely ,forever actually. Marriage means moving in together ,sharing costs , having kids if possible ,mutual decision making among so many other things. It means having to sacrifice almost everything for your partner ,its extra energy and requires a lot of strength. After considering how marriage may be a lot to handle make sure you are sure he is ready to talk about it and you think he is potentially the one you want to marry yourself. After that just start by asking his opinions of it , start small by asking about his parents ,his personal perfect example of a couple and go on from there but first and foremost understanding how he likes to be communicated to. That's different for everyone.

Ask him how he feels the relationship is going. Don't beat around the bush and air out your feelings on the subject. I don't think ultimatums are appropriate but at least let him know where you stand after an appropriate amount of time has passed. If this doesn't work out for you then you two were not meant to be. Maybe prior to this do some investigating on how he feels about marriage in general, that way you are not wasting your time with the whole endeavor. If he accepts marriage as an institution, then explore whether or not he has ever desired to have children, if you are one who does.

Many people have fears about getting married because they've seen their own parents', friends' or relatives' marriages fail. No one wants to repeat that kind of marital dysfunction. But if you're like most people, the pull to get married won't go away. For most men and women, marriage is the backbone of how we do life and raise families. It's important that you are on the same page about it with the person you love, as having different feelings about marriage may otherwise cause hurt and confusion in the relationship. So, there are no shortcuts here. Do your own work to get crystal clear on your beliefs and feelings about marriage. Say the things to your boyfriend....

Sit him down and talk to him. Ask him what his goals are and where he sees you guys in five and ten years, as well as where he sees himself in the same amount of time. Also, this would be a good time to evaluate your own feelings and goals. What do you want? What do you need? Are your goals on track? Do you see yourself with your boyfriend for years? What is more important to you: career/school or home and family?Once you know the answers to your own questions, you can then approach your boyfriend and talk about your future. Your findings might surprise you.

Relationshps and 'next steps' are often a delicate topic. With your boyfriend have the two of you talked about the subject in general terms? Talking about the subject itself, to get an idea of how the other person feels is a good place to start regarding if marriage is a possibility. The subject itself some shy away from for whatever reason. But if you feel that you and your boyfriend need to have a chat about where the relationship is going and what the other wants long-term, then it's important to discuss it especially if you want different things. In my experience, a boyfriend I had didn't want anything to do with me regarding marriage, and I had forced it out in the open...which in my case was better in the long run because I didn't want to be a forever girlfriend to someone who didn't see me as marriage material. I went through a rough break up but it freed me to move onto finding my person.

Approach the conversation with an open mind and do not push him to a certain answer! Ask for his opinion and listen, asking follow-up questions if necessary. Make sure that you are able to express yourself and your opinions in the conversation as well, but do not pressure him to a certain answer. Be careful in your wording and express to him how much you love him and care about him. Try to make sure he knows that you just want to have a discussion, and do not make an ultimatum if this is your first time having the discussion. It is likely that he might feel overwhelmed at first and need to reflect on the subject! Keep a kind attitude instead of being too pressuring, if possible!

How lovely to hear you're considering marriage with your boyfriend, i understand it can be a difficult topic to bring in a conversation but it could be a possibility that he might be considering it too? Only way to find out for sure would be to engage in an open communication, perhaps you can start talking about marriage in general and get to know his thoughts on the same, then move along connecting the idea with y'alls relationship, how it is going, and how you'd like to have a future with your boyfriend. I'd really encourage you to be honest and freely express your feelings to him, you should be allowed to say how you feel, and share your thoughts too. I'm wishing yall the best. Hope things work out in your favor. ❤️