How to talk to your boyfriend about marriage?

That's a difficult thing for me to answer, I'm in a 5 year relationship, and society and the people i grew up around says i should be married by now and even have kids because everyone else has so far. but my partner for his own reasons doesn't want to or is not ready to and all of that, and i can respect that. i guess if you really want to be married and want that title and have his last name and officially be his forever, you have to be brave and state what you want for your future with him. take the plunge, because that will tell you where you want to be or at and where you want your relationship to go. hear him out even if he doesn't give you the answer you want. and think if the relationship you built so far with him is worth staying with despite how he might feel. and if he is on the same page as you. got for it.

i would say it's really important to find an appropriate time! when neither of you are occupied with anything and could really sit down and listen to each other. for me, i'll usually bring up this topic when we're on the phone! it's really hard to bring it up when we're outside because i don't want to be distracted by the things and people around us. i'll let my boyfriend know that i want to get married by this age because of (these) and i'll hear his point of view as well. it's important to also know how receptive your boyfriend is towards the idea of marriage.

It can always be helpful to talk about it in a theoretical way first. To figure out if thats even a step your boyfriend wants to take. If it is not, and you talk about it as a you and him thing, some boys can be spooked. So finding out if he thinks about marriage. And if you already know that he has thought about it in theory, then you could innocently float either what you both think about the relationship, or just flat out say how you see it, giving him space to think and not respond. The first time my wife told me she loved me and chose me she said "You don't have to respond to this if you don't want to, but I just want you to know..." I didn't respond directly for 3 months. Relationships are different and beautiful.

Set your goal for the evening like what you expect to have gained from the conversation, ask the necessary questions. Be honest and open about what you want, remain calm sometimes we allow our emotions to get the better of us in these situations. Tell him how you feel about marriage then ask him how he feels about it, tell him what you want from your relationship and ask him what his expectations are. Be clear, be honest. If it can't all be answered in one conversation then divide the conversation up into different sections if need be. If you don't get the answer you want don't do anything haste

Be honest about the way you feel & what you desire, not demand. Desire is a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing something to happen. Whereas demand means an insistent and peremptory request, made as if by right; more authoritative. Every relationship should have impeccable communication as the foundation where you feel safe to talk about anything and everything. Often people are aware that marriage is not an easy topic to discuss, however this will be a great way to also know if you're on the same page.

Ask if it's a good time to talk and express your point of view by telling how you feel and how you see the relationship going. Don't put pressure on him and make sure to listen to his point of view as well. Be clear and assertive, but don't nag or compare your relationship with others. Ask him about his views on marriage and if he's not in the mood to talk, try to find a better time for a conversation. Openness, respect and honesty are essential to communicate effectively. It's also important not to judge your boyfriend's views.

Bring it up over dinner, or a nice quiet time when it's just the two of you and you have his full undivided attention. And then, simply tell him how you feel and what your thoughts are about marriage, a timeline, and what your expectations are for him. Be sure to listen carefully to what he says to discuss the topic as needed. However, if getting straight to the point isn't for you, you can bring up the topic more casually by addressing a movie or a friend who got engaged to keep it more general. From there, you can proceed to connect it back to your relationship.

Be honest and open! Don’t approach the subject timidly like you think he’s gonna run away from you but maybe drop subtle hints about “taking it to the next level”. Ease into the conversation and ask him to actively listen to what you want to say before he interrupts. Y’all can have a calm and mature discussion, in which you should explain WHY you want marriage (reasons for why you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him). Don’t scare him off by coming on too strong but also don’t be afraid to be confidently honest and precisely state your thoughts.

from personal experience, Ask your boyfriend about it! It's always good to communicate your feeling to your partner. Communication is key in a relationship. Go about the way you feel communicated your idea the best. Way the cons and pros depending on your relationship, but I would typically recommend that you share your feeling about marriage. Start of by asking a more general question, such as do you see yourself getting married anytime soon. Then, Ask more specific questions that you've had in your mind. Make your intentions clear and ease them into the conversation so they do not get overwhelmed.

It is best to explore what commitment means to both of you in the context of dating and marriage; this is a reciprocal conversation where ideally both your or his side is listened to, honoured, and respected. In my experience is it best to have these conversations directly with your partner so that you both attempt to understand each other and find a place to move forward together where you both want to go. Relationships aren't easy, neither is marriage, practice having these "tough" conversations now and it will set you both up for success within the relationship in the future.