How to stop hating yourself after cheating?

There is no way you can change what has already happened. Accept that you made a mistake and do everything you can not to make it again.

I think that acceptance is key with this. Whatever you did or didn't do has happened. It's in the past now. While the feelings, and thoughts continue there has to come a point where you need to forgive yourself. Maybe talking with a listener or counsellor may help you beyond this?

Examine what drove you to cheat in the first place. Try to work on the underlying causes, and promise to treat yourself and your partner with more live and kindness next time.

I would like to suggest a couple of things that could help: 1. The first is that you aren't defined by a particular event in your life. So you shouldn't hate yourself for it. Even the best of us make mistakes. You could promise yourself to not make such a mistake again. 2. Another thing that could be acceptance. By accepting that you did it you may be able to forgive yourself for it. 3. Try detachment. Think about yourself from a 3rd person's perspective. What advice would you give to someone who was feeling the same way. I would like to say that hating yourself for cheating won't erase it from occurring. The best thing is to move on and forgive yourself.

If the person you cheated on was a great person that loves you truly or were bound to love you then you don't stop hating yourself. Ever. Its an awful thing to do to an innocent person. Why be with that person if you wanna cheat? You would deserve to be hated to do something like that.

This topic is related to self valuation. Cheating is an action of betrayal. Betray has a negative impact to people because it’s related to trust in relationships. People often putting blame on things have negative things. Therefore the hate begin from the negative cycle. When come across the relationship, the complexities with emotions and actions does made people suffocate. However people often forgot to think about that negative things began with reason. To void self hating is to acknowledged what happened. Deal with the situation and understand it. Able to accept it and not self destroying the self confidence and values. Stop think the same situation in loop.

I feel like it's important to build a support system of people you can trust and can confide in. Regretting having done something that hurt people, usually means that you are a better person that you think, because it means that you are already growing. I think it's important to accept responsibility, but also don't dwell on it and let it eat you. Keep the past in the past where it belongs, but don't be afraid to allow yourself to tend to your wants and needs again, even though you may seem like a bad or irredeemable person. Never stop working on yourself.

Accepting that the cheating did happen - accepting the situation is the first step. Knowing that at that moment you did all you knew....you are different now and if the same situation came up you most likely would not do the same thing. This is growth. I know as I also cheated and looking back I can't believe I did that however the me 'now' has learned and would do things differently. Now you must remove the word 'hate' and replace it with 'love'....no matter what you did you must learn to love yourself through anything. Whatever 'mistakes' you feel you may have done love yourself through it. Bring love into the situation. Bring love into your heart. You are not a bad person. No one is perfect and we are not meant to be. We are just here learning and growing and the key is learning to love ourselves through all we do.

Your partner may feel betrayed after being cheated on, You should talk,face to face,with your ex,and apologize for what you did.

First, you must be honest with your partner even if you think s/he will be hating you explain your feeling to her/him and be strong, nothing can be between two person relay love another.