How to stop hating yourself after cheating?

Cheating is a topic that has alot to it depending on the situation and the side of it that your on. Cheating on someone isnt always something a person can help themselves from doing. If your feeling certain ways, maybe hatred, from cheating on someone you can try lots of things. Acknowledging a problem is sometimes a good thing and can help. If you think to yourself then you can better understand you and how your feeling and maybe that can help you find a way to feel less hatred for cheating. I believe in you (the reader) and I hope you find this helpful or meaningful in someway.

I believe that the way I would stop hating myself after cheating is by changing my way of being and not doing it again. Its never to late for change. When a person knows that they are doing wrong they need to change there way of being. If that person doesnt want to be in a relationship anymore they should let the other person go rather then holding on to them when they dont want to be with them anymore. Cheating can be very hurtful. If a person would not like to be cheating on then they should not do it to someone else.

If anyone chooses to not like you for whatever reason, simply think to yourself, 'I have a unique and special personality that no one else can mirror perfectly, and I am the way I am for a reason. Some person out there, be them male, female, or non-binary, thinks I'm their dream significant other, it just isn't the last one.' "If at first you don't succeed, try try again." I like to say "I refuse to be In a relationship with someone who chooses to be too impatient to bring one relationship to an end, before jumping to the next sinking ship."

If you feel bad about it , believe it or not that's a good thing, it means you are a good person. We all make mistakes , just learn from them and think about why you did cheat.

Thank you for reaching out regarding this topic which can be uncomfortable to talk about. It’s natural to feel shame, guilt and regret behind something you did that will likely hurt your significant other's feelings. You might want to ask yourself some questions. Am I upset because of how my significant other will react if I tell him/her/them? Do I hate myself because I did not tell him/her/them about the affair? It's important to think of your own boundaries and your significant other's boundaries. What do you consider cheating and what does your partner consider cheating? Are you and your significant other willing to reconcile the relationship through couple’s therapy? OneLoveFoundation and Relate are examples of support organizations regarding relationship stress. Mistakes are part of our learning process. You may want to reflect on what you could have done differently prior to this. At the time did you know what you did would hurt someone or did you realize only after? Ask yourself if you would rather torture yourself or try to learn, heal, and grow from this experience. It's easier said than done to give yourself permission to move on. Time to keep moving forward to prove to yourself that event doesn’t define your entire self-worth or who you are as a person. You are welcome to reach out for further support to one of our listeners or therapist's, some of which who have personal experience and specialized experience with what you are going through.

Cheating is a choice you make subconciously and sometimes do it unintentionally . You should not hate yourself for it as forgiveness is the best gift . Forgive yourself and explain to yourself under what circumstances u let it happen and it cannot be changed by hate but by love . Apologise to the people you hurt and try to end thing on good terms . Donot blame yourself for completely for it every human makes mistakes atleast once and getting over it is also a part of your life . Love yourself , forgive yourself and find a better life for yourself to not make the same mistakes again.

one needs to understand that cheating is not a mistake but a choice so hating oneself is a results of guilt so to stop hating oneself, a person should do what they love doing the most, remember that their feelings are valid, know that they are beautiful and worthy. A person needs to remember why they are living and their reason for living so basically one need self-care routine, exercise, good food, have a routine of their daily lives, moreover they need to pray for guidance, forgiveness, strength and protections. Also a person need to distance themselves from the cheater to avoid falling into the trap of being with them again.

Acceptance of your own behavior and reflection on how you have grown can help one heal after an infidelity. Working through what lead up to the infidelity that made that an option is also good to reflect on. Forgiving the person who stepped out or forgiving ones self is important part of the healing process. One can learn a lot about themselves and what their role has been in a relationship. Reflection is one important aspect to see what you have done and what you want to do and have in your future relationships. Forgive yourself and your partner for being human. We all make errors in judgement, it's vital to learn from those errors.

Learn that everyone in this world makes mistakes, some minor some major but mistakes are a normal process in life and make us learn what is right & wrong. Think of it more as you have ate the wrong chocolate bar! It sounds like the end of the world but it isn’t, you will just know not to do this again. Some things can’t be changed and this scenario is one of them, if you dwell on the past forever you can’t build your future. Hate is a strong word do not hate yourself, thank yourself more for learning yourself a lesson that has taught you a lot of things that some actions can hurt others as well as yourself!

It might have feel terrible after cheating someone because cheating does not match with our core moral values and conscience. But it is a good thing that you discovered at least that cheating is a wrong thing to do and that is why you are feeling kind of guilty. But, you can not blame yourself only, because there must had present other factors responsible for that cheating thing also . Sometimes, it is difficult to take decisions and that is completely understood. So if possibility for asking forgiveness is there . then do the one and try to move on and if possibility is not there, you don't have control over situations right now. so forgive yourself and have patience. You will heal soon.