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How to stop hating yourself after cheating?

Profile: hopefulWillow86
hopefulWillow86 on Jul 28, 2018
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First of all, understand that transgressions are very common in one way or another in relationships for many different reasons. Although they can be hurtful or destabilizing, it is entirely possible to heal from them. Take some time out to understand why it happened in the first place. If you are not honest with yourself you cannot be honest with others. If you are still with your partner, listen to the ways that it made them feel. Also try to work through the thoughts and feelings that you are having as well. If you find yourself with a new partner, consider telling them about what happened. Many times people are very understanding and will respect you more as a result. Ultimately all of these things are up to you, but you absolutely have the ability to heal and to have meaningful relationships filled with love, respect, and integrity.
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Profile: heartfulPower23
heartfulPower23 on Aug 10, 2018
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you should ,try to forgive yourself first .but apologise to the one whom you have cheated ,so it woulf be better if apologise in a sincere way and then ask forgiveness from that person and then try to accept your faults,and try to calm your thoughts and always try to be a better person thats the only solution to your problem .
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 16, 2018
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Realize that hating yourself is harmful to your progress. Self-forgiveness is the path to healing from the trauma and disappointment of breaking your moral code. It may help to speak with a counselor with or without your partner present depending on whether your relationship with your partner continues beyond the indiscretion. Your most important relationship, however, is with yourself. Now is a good time to ask yourself important questions. Explore the reasons for the cheating. Is the problem with your partner? Or are you seeking from someone else the attention you could be giving yourself? Learn from the mistake and make new agreements with yourself to live with integrity moving forward.
Profile: TripleL7
TripleL7 on Sep 16, 2018
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You have to forgive yourself. If you had someone wonderful and betrayed them you could really start hating yourself for a really long time but you have to figure out if you're just dirty or if you did it because you felt like you had to turn to someone else because you're not or weren't getting someone from that one person whom you were with. Either way the most important part is figuring out where you stand with yourself and with your partner you cheated on. If you're one who has no self control and feels like if he can get it why not take it , that's just not how things work and self control should be practiced.
Profile: freshsupport
freshsupport on Oct 10, 2018
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This is a hard question to answer. You may find getting into a new relationship can cause a clean slate for you. If you hate yourself that much, then you will definitely not think about doing it in the next relationship. If you even get a slight temptation In your new relationship to cheat. them you should end the relationship there. On the best terms possible. If you cheat, it shows you never had 100% love and dedication for the person in the first place. Which will make you feel worse. Moving on can sometimes just be a key involvement in improving yourself and your life. Starting fresh.
Profile: resourcefulFreedom38
resourcefulFreedom38 on Nov 24, 2018
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The first step should be acknowledging the choice and accepting responsibility for the action. Reflex on why the choice was made to cheat; e.g., is there something you consider missing in the relationship, was this the first time? Self evaluate and ask someone close to you, to give you their thoughts on how they see you. This can help to discover hidden traits that you do not see. Ask your partner for forgiveness and forgive yourself. If this is not the first time you have cheated, try to uncover the reason why. Ask yourself what you are looking for in a relationship. Also, place yourself in the other person's shoes, how would you feel if the person you loved cheated on you. Try to find the underlining reason for your action. Work on changing it and move on. The past cannot be changed, but you can improve the future. Own action, ask for forgiveness and forgive self.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 16, 2020
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Receiving a cheating is always very hard! The fact that you hate the person that cheat to you doesn't mean you have to hate yourself. It's not your fault! Give yourself a change to be happy , take a big breath and start over :)! It's not easy but I know you can do it How can you star? By loving yourself, take time for yourself, taking care of yourself , and slowly you will start love yourself again , the pads will be accepted and the present will embrace you with a stronger powerful positive life! You can do it
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 22, 2020
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first off stop cheating. then figure out what went wrong for you to cheat in the first place. not always your fault , if your partner isn't giving you all you need then it can lead to cheating or if your unhappy. really have to sit down with yourself first and make a list of reasons as to why it happened, then talk to your partner , then you have to get over the fact that its done and over with and there is nothing you can do about it now other then dont make the same mistake again.
Profile: anshpancholi
anshpancholi on Jun 19, 2020
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We just need to ask for genuine sorry to whom we have cheated. As we cheats someone, they gets hurt. We do realize it before doing the act. But our tendency to ignore this message of heart put us in this loop in which we give to ourselves regularly some negative thoughts. But wait, everything is done now, you have cheated, the one who is cheated got hurt now next action should be asking for sorry for hurting. In the case if you are forgiven the problem is solved and in the case if asking for sorry fails we need to ask for penance. In the case if the penance is too hard to follow just try to do it, this may changes mood and forgiveness may be given. In the case if this idea fails, then you would have a satisfaction that you tried it at your best. Thanks
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 4, 2020
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You need to know much you worth and that people can change if they belive in it when you start believing in yourself things will get more easier for you and the ones you love but you can’t hate yourself for making a mistake because we all make mistakes, we are all human beings but it is important to know that there are people that love you and will support you no matter how much you hate yourself and it is not easy to be better but with help of people that uou love and respect it will get better
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