How to stop hating yourself after cheating?

You need to realize that you are human, and people make mistakes, in about 53% of relationships one of the people will cheat in one way or another. Im not saying cheating is right but at some point you need to pick your self up apologies and move one.

First you must realize why you feel these feelings. Usually the feelings that are felt after someone cheats is betrayal, humiliation and a break of trust. We put a lot of trust in a relationship and for whatever reasons someone has, cheating makes you feel like it's the end of the world and that you are a horrible person. The human brain is very fragile with a range of chemistry being felt throughout our bodies, and sometimes people cheat, that's a part of life that some people go through. You're onto your next stage in your path now, you've recognized your emotions and you're aware of the situation, just think forward constantly rather than about yesterday. You will bring yourself more anxiety if you live in the past. What has happened, has happened, for whatever reasons it did. Now it is time to awake in a new day.

Yes, you made a mistake, but guess what? You're not perfect. You're going to make mistakes and however horrible they may be, anything can be forgiven eventually. Just move on, don't do it again, and try to prove your loyalty next time. You have the right to be angry with yourself, but don't let that anger stop you from continuing in life. You've clearly changed or you wouldn't be asking this question.

It takes time to forgive yourself, you already know you did something bad, as soon as you realize that, you're already making progress, ofcourse it takes time, but time goes one, you can't stop that, and hating on yourself forever won't make anyone happy. It happened, there's nothing you can do about it. Just try to change your way of thinking, be sure of it that it never happens again, be a better person!

If you even started to realise that you hate yourself for cheating, then you many steps forward of your previous situation. You realise what you did was wrong, feel guilty and have the conscience not to repeat this mistake next time. That speaks so much about you. You have already grown as a person. To err is human and to forgive is divine. When you cheated, you were a bad human. When you realised your mistake, you became a good human and when you will forgive yourself for it, you'll become more than a human. I once cheated and couldn't bear it's guilt for a long time. But then I talked to a wise person who explained to me that by giving so much thought to my mistake, I have already subconsciously taken a vow not to repeat it. When we have to forgive another person, our only fear is that the person will do the same thing again and in this case, we have overcome that fear. So don't hold a grudge against yourself, you need to move on and forgive yourself because if you don't, then neither will anyone else. You are the person who loves yourself the most! :)

go a little easy on yourself. No one died. No live's have been destroyed by your actions. The only person currently feeling pain about this incident is you. Determine that it will never happen again and move on. Moving forward, I hope you will now see this incident in this light instead: You learned a lesson.

You have to first question yourself why you did what you did. Was it because there was something in your relationship that you were unhappy about and you were never able to resolve it? I'm not saying cheating is right but sometimes we are compelled to do so because we are starved of affection or other reasons. If you can identify the source, you might feel better.

Everyone makes mistakes, it's part of life. Moving on and realizing your mistakes, though, is part of the process. Once you realize that all, moving on will be much easier. Everything happens for a reason, and this you will learn from to never do again.

Self hatred is never helpful. Hatred is a negative feeling which doesn't move you forward. Regret is much better to focus on. You're a human, humans make mistakes, and you regret that mistake. Focus on what caused the mistake to happen, how you can correct it, and what you can do to prevent it in the future. I hope you find peace!