How to stop hating yourself after cheating?

Cheating is difficult to cope with for all involved. I think it is perfectly natural and normal to have a mix of feelings. When it comes to overcoming negative and self critical thoughts, it could be helpful to try to identify causes and effects to why you cheated and then try to see how you can move forward and grow from the experience. Don't beat yourself up. Maybe talking to someone will help, or even journaling to help you identify how you're feeling. Just like with any coping, I believe focusing on moving forward can help you feel like things are improving. Best of luck! I bet you can do this!

Tell yourself to be a better person, you can do this! Don't hate yourself in the first place. You made a mistake, we all do. Promise yourself you're not going to do that. You need to start a new chapter in your life knowing you have change in your heart. Keep on growing, don't stop. Test yourself. Do exactly whatever it takes for you to change. Overall believe in yourself! The first thing you have to do for change is to know you can, yourself! In my opinion, just be a better you, that's all ! Bye bye.

We are all students of life. Each experience we have teaches us how it feels. How if feels directs our course forward. Either we will do it again, or we won't. If your cheating has taught you the value of honesty and commitment, then it has served its purpose. Now you must move on as a student of life. You must realize that actions you put into life come back to you so you can experience how they feel. If you regret cheating, you have learned your lesson. You now know more than you did before. You have altered your behavior. You cannot expect others to find cheating acceptable, so you gracefully understand and allow them their response. We cannot continually judge ourselves for what we did not realize before we learned something. Whomever you cheated on deserves better and will get better in the future. You have learned how people respond to cheating and that it is not a positive experience. You have learned, hopefully, not to cheat. So, as a student of life, you move on to get an A in the next challenge. That is how you deal with the fact you cheated. You make it count. You look forward, not behind you, and you set your sites on better behavior.

It's just something you're going to have to work on as time goes by. Everybody makes mistakes, and everybody reacts to their own mistakes in different ways. The best thing that you can do is learn from the mistakes you've made. In this case, you obviously don't want to cheat again and you seem like you realize the mistake you've made. If you're feeling down maybe rushing into a new relationship isn't the best immediate idea. I'm assuming you've also spoken to the person you were previously in a relationship with to let them know that you're sorry for what you've done. So my advice is basically just realize you made a mistake and learn from it.

Realise the actions done and reflect on yourself. Understand the consequences and face them with courage starting with forgiving yourself. Love yourself and learn to be better for yourself and for your future partner, you may not be able to change your past but you have the ability to change your future. Change is nothing without progress, growth is what makes you a better person, and it starts by moving forward. Acknowledging the actions and reflecting them is the very first step to move forward. After all, it takes a tremendous amount of courage for someone to forgive someone, especially themselves.

I'm sorry to hear you are having thoughts of self-hatred. At the end of the day, there was a reason why you cheated. Perhaps you were very lonely or you felt unloved or unfulfilled in your current relationship. Find the part of you that felt they needed to cheat and empathize with them. Attempt to give them what you thought another partner might give you. If you are able to do this, you won't have to cheat again. Until then, realize that it is a common occurrence and you are not alone. Taking the time to address this issue now will be difficult, but it will improve your future relationships or your current relationship.

It's important to remember that, at the end of the day, you're human. People make mistakes. Things happen. The only way to move on from a mistake is to use it as an opportunity for individual growth and learning. Did you do it with ill intent in your heart? Did you do it just to cause trouble? No, you were human. One of the worst things one can do is dwell on a mistake, letting the past have an effect on their future. It's important we heal our own wounds, as to not risk bleeding on those who didn't hurt us.

Part of the human experience is making mistakes. Life can be really hard and we all go through difficult times and may do something we later regret. You sound remorseful and like you're owning your mistake. I would encourage you to try and view yourself with compassion. Hating yourself and beating yourself up won't change the past, in fact it will only drag it out longer. There comes a point where you can try and accept it for what it is, a mistake that you're brave enough to own and acknowledge. The next step is apologising to the person you hurt. Then forgive yourself! Therapy can help you if you're struggling with this. Everyone makes mistakes. You deserve to be able to be happy, love yourself and move on. You got this :)

One thing I've learned is that we are all become the person that we hate or someone that we are not proud of, but that doesn't mean that we are a bad person. Sometimes, we do wrong things and make bad choice, and that's okay, that's part of our life. The best way to stop hating yourself after cheating is to learn how to accept what already happened and take a baby steps on the process of forgiving yourself. Forgive yourself for cheating. Forgive yourself for doing things that is not right to kill your sadness. Forgive and learn to let go.

Hating yourself after cheating, won't make you any good neither can change what has happened. It is a good thing that now you are aware about your mistakes and wanting to make things right but the person you cheated on deserves a sincere apology. Bear in mind the potential consequences of someone who has to suffer because of cheating. This experience may haunt them to the extent of causing emotional and mental distress. Think hundred of times, then ask yourself; What if I am in her/his position, what would I feel? Is this the right thing to do? No one deserves to get cheated of. If you are no longer happy or you felt your partner has shortcomings then talk about it, that is why open communition is very important. Better to hurt someone with the truth rather than feeding them sweet lies. Make some self realization of what you did, it is now the time to be better and do better.