How to stop hating yourself after cheating?
Anonymous
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Dec 5, 2018
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Reflect on the reasons why you cheated on them and then properly communitcate with the partner you cheated on. Maybe seek forgiveness and a second chance. Seek therapy and maybe figure out how not to repeat the same mistake more than once. The partner might understand through proper communication. Maybe try reaching out to support groups and religion and see where that can take you. Time heals all wounds but you don't have to be alone to do it. Family and friends are great pillars of support to. Maybe confide in them. Just remember cheating is a choice not an excuse.
FlowerLiz2
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Jan 12, 2019
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You are only human. And we do make mistakes and we do bad things at times but it does not mean that WE are mistakes our that we are bad. We are worthy and enough. It does not depend on our actions. Rather we can see them as opportunities to grow and to see: Ah, I've been unconscious there. What can I learn from it? Once we learn from our mistakes, they turn into lessons and make us grow. And from this point on it is unlikely we will do it again. So you might want to see this as an opportunity for growth.
robert0991
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Feb 22, 2019
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Learn to realise that what you have done cannot be changed. There is one of two things you can do, either admit to your partner what you have done and face up to what is going to come from that or... don't tell your partner ansd focus on making the most out of your relationshop now. It's not always about telling the truth because you can then ruin two lives.
If you are no longer in love with your partner and are staying with them simply because you feel sorry for them then don't. Leave them, don't continue because one day it will all come to a head and it won't be a nice site.
comfortablePeace23
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May 2, 2019
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Realize what you did wrong and learn from it. Realize the things you did that are keeping you from moving on, the guilt and hold yourself to a higher standard that you will not do it again. There is no point in punishing yourself and hating yourself because you cant change the past, and you're the only one you have to live with. What sense does it make to hate the person you have to wake up to every single day. You're not benefitting anyone by hating yourself. Take it as a lesson learned, and put that lesson to practice so that you never have to feel this way again, not to mention another person.
Anonymous
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May 31, 2019
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Admit that you made a mistake. Imagine yourself in the person you hurt's shoes. Realize that you are not perfect but that you have the chance now to learn from your behaviour. Modify yourself to become a better person who does not do such things.
Hate is a strong and damaging emotion if left to fester. Instead focus on learning from the experience. Being angry does not have to be an entirely negative emotion. Harness your emotions and use them to guide yourself through an education thought process. Keep in mind your future and the person you would like to become!
Chlorophyll123
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Sep 11, 2019
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Forgiveness is hard. But just own the decision that you made and make your peace with the natural consequences of your choices.
Anonymous
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Feb 13, 2020
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Learn to accept that you have grown from this experience, a feeling of 'hating yourself' could mean that you don't approve of the behaviour your partook in and would like to change that. This means you have already changed and you have to be willing to forgive yourself before you are able to heal. Remember that everyone will make at least one mistake along the road and that is part of being human. You can always learn and take something away from every experience and in this one it can be a feeling of growth and a want of avoiding that situation again.
Anonymous
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Feb 27, 2020
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Work on finding the self you appreciate the most. You will slip up and make mistakes, but finding that average, finding what you makes you happy is the one you want to find. Cheating isn't a permanent mind frame, but it certainly means something isnt right. Solve that problem. find out what it is. Be honest with yourself. You're still a good person and you deserve to get tot he cause of what made you cheat. That's what I did, it took a long time and many different relationships, but eventually getting to know myself better and actually acknowledge my feelings for someone even if they arent positive is what I needed to do. Eventually everything settles and I found that by bettering myself it attracted people that better suited me.
Anonymous
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Feb 27, 2020
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Listening to music or share my story with my best friend. So, that can make me feel relieved that i can tell everything i want in my heart to my best friend. That's why, i want to say thank you for my best friend, how much i love her. I have my family and best friend to comfort, love is like everywhere. So not just being relationship, that's kinda feel weird if we tell that love is for romantic relationship.
Oh, and music... Mostly i will listen to what i liked. Like kpop and pop musics. I listen to them very much.
Sarah2312
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Mar 25, 2020
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To stop hating yourself after cheating it is really important to ask yourself why you cheated and be honest with yourself when you answer this question. Often, there will be a reason behind your actions. Once you have identified the reason, you can start to think about how you could handle this situation if it ever occurs in the future. For example - "My reason for cheating is that I was unhappy in my relationship. If I am unhappy again in this relationship, or a new one, I will talk to my partner about how I am feeling and try to find a different outcome". Once you have done this you should try to accept that you cannot change the past and remember that you grow and learn from your experiences.
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