How to stop hating yourself after cheating?

I was cheated on and all I can tell you is that hating yourself is a valid feeling, but not very constructive. Try to work out why you cheated, why you hate yourself for it and try to accept what happened and try to move on. The one you cheated on won't be helped by you punishing yourself through self-hatred.

As humans mistakes (big or small) are bound to happen and it is okay if you made a mistake. Such mistakes doesn't define the kind person you are but helps you learn and grow as an individual. So the question is not 'why did I do it', 'how could I do this' but "what now". Feelings like hatred can never be helpful and so focus on forgiving yourself for happened and moving towards improving oneself.

None of us are perfect. We've all hurt someone in one way or another (not condoning hurting people) but you have to forgive yourself in order to move on and learn/evolve so you can be better. By bettering ourselves, I believe we better those around us too in a ripple effect.

Did you have a healthy conversation to clear things out post the occurrence and do these negative thoughts come to you often?

Understand why you’ve made the choice you did. Get to the root of the problem. Genuinely make the promise to not make the same decision and forgive yourself.

It can be very difficult to forgive yourself for cheating, but there may have been a good reason for it at the time you did. Maybe you just wanted to feel love or validation.

If you cheated, that's ok. If you are upset with yourself for doing it then you obviously understand that what you did was not ok and you understand that you didn't like it. An apology is a great way to feel better. Not to the person you cheated on but to yourself. Apologizing for betraying your feelings and for betraying your thoughts. After that, then you should try and talk to the person you cheated on.

that's something that can stick with you..but you can overcome this. you may be a love addict, which causes people to do these things. if you suspect you are, attempt to get help by a professional. in the meantime, try and correct your ways.

Acknowledge what you did wrong, and that everyone makes mistakes. Commit to seeking help to address the issues that led to cheating. Change what you don’t like about yourself. Be true to who you are and change what you don’t like about yourself.

You need to understand the reasons and paths that lead you to cheat and embrace yourself with your faults and rights. You are responsible for your actions, yes, but we can not choose the environment we grew up which is a great predictor of who we become. I suggest you to try to have an insight about your decision processes. Moreover, it is not always about who we are but sometimes external factors may be effective in what we do. So try to have another perspective on the hatred. Also, remember all your good sides which you love and appreciate about yourself. Know that you are not to be hated.