How to stop hating yourself after cheating?

For me it's very simple. The guilt, regret, pain, hate, everything you may feel now, is because you hurt another human being. Another human being you care for deeply and maybe even love. You broke their trust and your promise. But it's not the only person that you hurt. You also hurt yourself. You know you did something bad, something against your own moral fibre and you formed a new image of yourself as a bad person. What you may not realize just now, is that one mistake is not the end of the world. You were bad only in the moment of making your mistake. You need to take a lesson out of it. You need to realize it hurts others and in result hurts you too. Have more self-control next time. Be more thoughful about other people's feelings. You need to grow out of this experience, make it up for that other person and yourself, and accept yourself for whoever you are. Because you're not bad to the core. You were bad in that one matter, but you don't have to stay like this. Dont undermine the good in you based on one mistake. You must know that there will come a day when you will forgive yourself and be glad for what happened, because it actually made you a better person. We are not bad people for making mistakes, but we become such if we repeat them.

You should remember why you cheated on that person. Not that you did cheat. Remember what the person did wrong to cause you to cheat

Personally, I have cheated and I hated myself for the longest time. The guy I cheated on was insanely sweet. Not was, IS. I am still with him and that just shows, it works out! To me, it was all bad until I confessed, apologized and made up!

Often in times where we do something we regret, we ask questions such as 'why did I do it', 'how could I do this' and 'where was my head at'. The thing that allows us to move forward and to grow as a person is to ask the question "what now". Its our response to these situations that make us good people, and it allows us to accept decisions we've made in the past.

For me what really helped was acceptance, acceptance that it happened and nothing could change that, and acceptance that I am not defined by what I have done. What helped me reach that was a lot, and I mean a lot, of communication. Mostly with myself in a way, finding time and space to be alone and release my thoughts, be it writing them out, talking to myself, or just thinking things through. It really helped me, and eventually I came to the conclusion that it was something I did and like all things it was a part of me but it did not define me, I was more, I was a lot, I was better, I was worse, but I wasn't just that girl who cheated. Though always find what helps You specifically, because you are worth it.

No matter how much time you spend hating yourself, you can't take back what you did. If you've been honest with the person you were in a relationship with at the time, then you've done all you can. Everyone makes mistakes, and maybe you made a pretty big one, depending on the circumstances, but the only thing you can do now is learn from it. It's understandable that you might hate the fact you did it, but you can learn from it and from how you feel. If it's convinced you that you never want to cheat again, then congratulations! You've learned to become someone who doesn't do things that you hate. You've grown, and you should be accepting of that process, if you can be :)

We all know, cheating is not a good thing, I can't tell you it was ok. But I can tell you, it was a mistake you made, and you're human, and as humans, we make mistakes all the time. So stop thinking and blaming yourself for it. It's not worth it, blaming or even hating yourself for it, it's not going to change the fact that you did it. So move on, and just learned about it. Make something good out of it, and try not to do it again, because you already know how it feels when you do it.

you cant because it will be on your mind for several years to come because cheating is very wrong and i know if i cheated on my wife i know i wouldn't forgive myself

Do something positive for your partner every time you start hating yourself. Then you can use it as a way to help strengthen your relationship.

The first thing to do when experiencing excessive guilt after cheating is recognizing yourself that you are experiencing remorse. That guilt you are experiencing is active evidence that you feel remorse for this situation. I can't tell anyone a method to stop hating themselves, but if you feel that way about yourself that means that you understand there is something about you that you want to change. Come to terms with your actions, accept that you feel that you have made a mistake and try to reconcile an internal method with yourself to move on into a new stage, which is a step towards being the person that you want to be.