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How to look okay when you meet your ex and deep inside you still loved him/her?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 14, 2015
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Being who you are is more important than looking okay. If you are conflicted, feel bad, still love them--if you are a mess--it IS okay. But love yourself and the mess you are rather than trying to pretend things are all good when they aren't.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 1, 2015
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When meeting someone you used to share an intimate relationship with, it can be really hard to cope with all the overwhelming feelings that fill your body, at the precise instant. Things are even more difficult if you still love the individual. The thing is, that person is your ex. Which means something didn't go well between the two of you, which led to the end of your relationship. Maybe he dumped you. Or maybe it was you who chose to end you intimacy. In both situations, one of you was feeling uncomfortable, not to say bad. Taking your distance allowed both of you to preserve yourselves from something much stronger and devastating than a healthy relationship. Still loving your ex is okay. It means you cared for them and still do. They might as well love you too. And dealing with the fact that the two of you can't be together just permits to exteriorize that love and respect. Looking okay can be difficult as you may feel that little remorse or sadness pain in your chest. No worries tho. If you really still love the person, then you wouldn't want them to feel bad, would you? Show them respect. Make them understand that you are aware of what happened between the two of you but that time allowed you to think about it and consider your separation as a good choice, for both of you. Wish them happiness, luck, health etc. Think about your past relationship as a gift and do not focus on its bad parts. Every experience is a benefit and a privilege and express them your gratitude.
Profile: Nova315
Nova315 on May 2, 2016
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You act like you're completely over them. From personal experience, it will kill you on the inside but it will make them think you're over them and you'll eventually get over them
Profile: camille3
camille3 on Jun 17, 2015
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Meeting up with your ex can be so stressful, especially when feelings are involved. It might be helpful to go through breathing exercises right before meeting up, practice your composure and repeat positive thoughts to lift your self-confidence!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 14, 2015
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Focus on something else something happy and not them focus on puppies cats your best friends just not him.
Profile: HelpAndHealing
HelpAndHealing on Aug 7, 2018
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It probably isn't the answer you wanted, but you don't have to be okay. That's perfectly alright. If you don't feel ready to see them, it's also okay to avoid this until you're further in your healing journey. You can try to smile and seem chirpy, but if they know you at all they'll see through that. Focus on what you need to really be okay, rather than just seeming okay for their benefit. Good luck and take care of yourself ♡
Profile: IlijaSP
IlijaSP on Nov 19, 2018
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Don't worry about what the person might think of you. Always remind yourself that you're more powerful than that person, so you're not the one that should feel bad, no matter if you like the person or not. In the moment you see your ex, remember that your brain has a magical cloud with all negative words in it, and the only one that can destroy that cloud away is you. You cannot destroy the cloud, you can only calmly blow it away. Innhale deeply and exhale. By the time you exhale, imagine the cloud going away. You're better than you think.
Profile: lilacenchantress
lilacenchantress on Feb 7, 2015
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Take a deep breath and look away. If you're a girl, then kind of shake your head in a nonchalant way so that YOU are convinced your hair is messed up/hot looking kind, and make sure that YOU feel beautiful like this. Smile at someone far off, wave or engage in a conversation with someone else. Make sure you don't look at him/her, but if you happen to catch them looking at you, give them a slight smile and look away quickly. You can really look okay that way.
Profile: NicholasW
NicholasW on Apr 28, 2015
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Well for me I haven't seen any of my ex boyfriends but I would ask can we still be friends that is my idea.
Profile: lxrre
lxrre on Nov 10, 2015
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Just act like you dont act like you dont need them. Tell them how good you are doing and how happy you are now.
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