How to get over someone you never dated?

it would be best to focus on hobbies, work, friends and family. understand that having a crush is normal but dont let it take over your mind, you dont want to become obsessed. you also dont want to miss out on that special someone that may be a good candidate for a date because you are stuck on someone that is not your boyfriend or girlfriend. Writing down your thoughts in a journal may also help you clear your mind of everything. express your feelings and why you feel the way you do about this specific person youre thinking about.

As painful as it can be to not have your feelings towards someone reciprocated, keeping hope and keeping contact can often deepen your attraction with them and hurt you even more than you were already hurt. My advice would be to do your best to detach yourself from that person by ceasing contact if you feel like they are causing you pain. Moving on can be difficult and holding onto hope will only deepen the pain as time goes on. Try to stop thinking about them and restructure how you think about them. If a romantic relationship isn't possible, thinking about them in that way will not help.

I personally have had quite a few crushes in my time, most of the time the other person did not even know I existed. It hurts to see a crush with another person, but you have to understand that over time wherever you go, there will always be another person you find attractive. I hate to get into clichés but the saying "there are plenty more fish in the sea" is true. There are many other possible partners that will come into fruition, eventually you will find the one for you, and that one will like you back and date you as well.

I’ve been through these situations several times. The key is to not force it (the change) immediately. The faster you expect results, the less effective it might be.. List out why you like the specific person, particularly what qualities you’ve identified in them that you may want in your prospective partner.. identify the latter as general characteristics and specific ones.. most importantly, identify whether the infatuation is toxic to your mental health.. (this is one of the most common reasons people attempt getting over a crush) Lastly, weigh out the possibilities and realistic outlooks on whether or not you would date them in the future, and how said relationship would go based on past experiences with people inhibiting similar characteristics.. keep in mind your proximity/relationship with them. If you’re platonic friends, the friendship could be at stake and in these cases, if the other persons view is clear and unfavored to yours, its best to remain friends and keep it at that. If it bothers you or affects your mental health, limit exposure and communication with them for a while until you’ve set things straight. All in all, you could also have a conversation with friends about this topic.. They know the best about you and for you and usually have the best advice for similar situations..

I actually just went through this myself. I think the biggest and most helpful thing that you can do for yourself is block all contact. Do not text, call, stalk their social medias, or warp your memories of that person. Sometimes humans have the tendency to only remember the things that made them the happiest while making memories with someone. But that isn’t the case. Most likely, if you fell in love with, or had feelings for, a person you never dated, there were a lot of painful memories to go with it. I specifically remember crying almost every night. See this boy was my best friend, and he had a seizure and almost died. He started on medication for his seizure, and it completely changed the boy I knew into someone else. He’d lose his temper, and when I’d try to help him he’d tell me to “stop playing the victim.” That was an example of a memory I chose to ignore for the sake of missing him. I also think it’s important to feel good about yourself. Act like there are always “someone you never dated” watching you. Look so amazing you don’t care. And slowly, over time, you’ll realize that all of the memories, the good and bad, mix into a bittersweet remedy.

From experience, I slowly stopped looking at their social media, didn’t mention them in conversation and I listed why I was better that we never actually dated. It was hard to get over them but I realized that there are reasons we didn’t date and I always had a friend to turn to when I felt bad about them. Having a support system helped me get through the stress and heart ache of not being with them or never being with them. Knowing that someone better was out there for me kept me strong and let me go through the healing process.

Try to be honest with yourself. it's a very hard thing to do, but if you manage, you will know yourself better and understand your patterns better. I did it myself and worked pretty well, despite it was painful at first, it liberated me. So I did these things and hope it will work for you as well: ask yourself why you fell for this person? what good feelings aroused when you imagined them or fantasized about them? those are the feelings we lack the most and which we must give to ourself at first in order to receive it from other person.

It is not easy to stop thinking about someone you once loved but could not date, i know it must be very difficult for you. Try explaining yourself why it is important for you to get over this person and tell yourself why you did not date the person. When you know this it will be easier to get over the person. engaging yourself into something productive and important can help, spend more time with friends and family. Try doing something creative and which makes you happy, you always liked doing. This will really help you get over that person.

Speaking from experience, it really hurts if someone doesn't reciprocate your feelings, especially if you've got really strong feelings for them. But its important to realize whether you've fallen for them or an idea of them you've made up in your head. Be real and and get them off the pedestal you've put them on. Cutting off contact and engaging in other things that make you happy is effective too. Realize that you didn't date the person so you don't REALLY know how they'd be in a relationship with you. If someone doesn't value your feelings, the best way is to cut off contact, it'll feel sad and melancholy for a while, but it eventually gets better. Best of Luck!

Getting over people you wished you had dated is a very hard thing to do, as you most likely have feelings for them still. ways to get over people are simple: -Put some distance between the two of you. -Try to keep the conversation light and keep it calm. -Put more focus on other things, where your crush will not be. -Find a hobby or something to keep you not thinking about them. -Stay positive about the experience, and think about how you are better off without them or how they don't deserve you. -Like I said, distance is very important.