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How to get over someone you never dated?

Profile: bountifulRainbows18
bountifulRainbows18 on Apr 24, 2020
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I think it's important to first validate your feelings and recognize that regardless of whether or not you had a romantic relationship, a friendship or admiring someone from afar that the feelings you experienced are very real. We have to feel to heal so acknowledging that you had feelings for this person will help you move through the stages of grieving the loss of something you hoped to have happen and allow you to move forward in your life. As you process your feelings it's important to be patient and kind yourself without denying or diminishing how you feel. Surround yourself with supportive people to talk with and be aware of the negative stories you may be telling yourself that are not true. Use healthy distractions and hobbies to give yourself a way to refocus and release the stress of your emotions and remind yourself that you are worth loving by someone who can truly appreciate you!
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Profile: jadesupport101
jadesupport101 on Apr 25, 2020
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It's easy to blame yourself for the things you could have done or the things you think you did wrong. However, acknowledge that you may not have been right for each other or it wasn't the right time for a relationship. Getting out of a cycle of thinking about them can be really hard. A few ways to get out of the cycle may be starting a new routine or a hobby that can take your mind off of them. All things take time, so try not to push yourself too hard when it comes to moving on. It's all about your mindset.
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Anonymous on May 13, 2020
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Getting over someone you have never dated is hard because there is no closure. However, I found reassurance and closure with the thought that I never dated that guy for a reason. He did not want me even though I did my best to be there for him and support him. I did my best, yet he did not. It gave me closure knowing that I gave my all. It comforted me knowing that I deserved someone who would put their 100% into me too. It helped knowing my self worth and effort I put into the person. Their feelings is out of my control so I was able to heal knowing that there were no “what ifs” since I tried my best.
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helpfulpanda2468 on Jun 17, 2020
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It can be hard because you feel like you have had such a strong connection with them. For me, it took a while because it felt as if we were dating. I had to find other things to distract myself. I would watch Netflix and exercise. I would do things to not have my mind on that particular person. I stopped contacting them. I did not want to see their text or stories on social media. It was hard but eventually, I got over them if I can do it so can you! I focused on myself and my friends and family. I gained weight and lost weight. I focused on my academics. I believe in you sand I am so proud of you reaching out for help!
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Anonymous on Jun 21, 2020
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This is a frustrating experience to go through because you can't even figure out why it's so hard to get over people you never dated. The way I got over that person was restricting myself from seeing their posts on social media because the more I see them, the harder I fall. When I come across things that are associated with them, like a song or an object, I try to re-associate it with a better memory. There are other ways that you could get over that person but these are just some of the ones that helped me the most. I hope it helps you too ! :D
Profile: justinefish234
justinefish234 on Jun 24, 2020
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hi there! i have dealt with this recently and i would love to help you with this! i had a thing with this guy and then he basically dropped me. i didn't cry but i felt sad and wanted to sleep all day, every day. however, i did recently get over him. thanks to my spotify playlist "im done with you", i got over him. this playlist consists of breakup songs and "i don't care about you" songs. it also takes a lot of time. trust me you will get over them and if you wait, that feeling will go away! good luck!
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arianachanel on Jun 27, 2020
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To get over someone you never dated, it's important to learn self-love. Self-love isn't something you gain overnight, so you have to keep actively working at it. Once you start gaining self-love, you realize you deserve more than a situationship. You deserve someone who will love you like you love yourself. Knowing these things will help you weed out those who aren't really meant for you. There's a reason why you never dated that person. It's also important to understand that it wasn't your fault. We often pick at the situation and ourselves trying to figure out where we went wrong. You did nothing wrong, that person just wasn't for you :)
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silverBlanket8721 on Jul 5, 2020
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To get over someone you have never dated, you will need to keep your head and your mind in a good and positive place and remember that it is ok to let out your emotions and that it is totally normal and it is ok to speak to a trusted person about it. To get over them, tell them how they made you feel and ask them how you made them feel. At the end of the day, you both will know how you made each others feel and you could fix the problem and get over them. Self-love is the key.
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billybombero on Jul 12, 2020
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Just say hello to them. Meet up with them and if possible spend the day with them.Do things that that you like and that they like.Promote conversations and try your best to not make things awkward.It might help if you go to places that have activities to do and then later go somewhere to eat.it does not have to be an expensive place though.If required bring a friend or multiple friends.Have some things planned out and stay spontaneous. Finally at the end of the day get a journal and write down how the day was, how you felt about the day and about that person.Did it go the way you wanted?From this you can probably tell if this is someone to be with
Profile: resourcefulUnicorn72
resourcefulUnicorn72 on Aug 6, 2020
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This is a difficult thing to go through and can sometimes be as hard as getting over someone you did date, especially because in these types of situations you are less likely to get closure. Try to think about why you are attracted to them in the first place. Sometimes when we are attracted to someone it's because we are in some way idealizing them. Learning to realize that the person you are attracted to is also a flawed human being can be really helpful. Other times, it might be because they have a particularly friendly personality and make you feel good, and it's easy to confuse this feeling for attraction. This can be especially hard if you know the person well and consider them a friend. However, it's ultimately important to understand and accept that some things aren't meant to be. You should allow yourself to feel whatever emotions feel natural to you, but in the end let them go. Sometimes this means trying to decrease the time and energy spent thinking about them, and refocus it on building yourself up.
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