How to get closure from my ex? I feel I need it.

You can try writing down your feelings in a form of a letter to him. Instead of mailing it, after writing down your feelings, destroy the letter.

Decide that the relationship is over in your own mind. Once complete, look forward to the next person you welcome into your life.

If you have any mementos, it may feel satisfying to put them away in a private place for some time, or destroy them, if you're feeling any violent urges.

Take the good things and the bad things and separate them. The good ones can stay in your heart as long as its in the past, while the bad things should disappear

It can take a long time to get over an ex, and sometimes it can feel that getting closure can help with that. Lots of things can help with closure. Some ideas include writing a letter and then burning it or tearing it up, or even making a box of things that remind you of the relationship and putting it away somewhere safe.

Talk to him about it. Whatever youre feeling you should adress it, Im sure he will understand. Ask questions aswell!

I hear you! It would be absolutely wonderful if each relationship that ends comes with closure for both people. Why do we think closure exists outside our own hearts and minds, though? If we couldn't get what we need from our ex during the relationship, what makes us think we can get what we need from them when it's over? I think pampering oneself is a great form of closure, and also doing an "exit interview" with yourself, in a journal perhaps. What questions would you ask yourself as a "former employee" in the relationship? What were your strengths and weaknesses? What can you take with you into better relationships?

I would suggest simply getting out! Whether it's going to the mall, out with friends, or even for a walk or run. I've found that getting in the habit of doing this can help break a possible need for closure. Don't expect for these things to dissapear immediately, but over time that need for closure becomes less and less! :)

Sometimes simply talking to your ex may help to bring closure. It is also important to try to help yourself understand the circumstances that led to the breakup. Understanding why you broke up is the first step in achieving closure.

Sometimes you will never get closure from your ex. The closure comes from within you when you've moved on and you're ok with your life on your own. It can be a daunting though but it's critical that you see yourself as the soul responsibility for your happiness. When you focus on yourself you no longer need that closure because it's in the past. I always take a learning lesson from each relationship. Choose one thing that I could have done better and work on it for the next one. I don't put myself down, I am realistic.