How to get closure from my ex? I feel I need it.

Expressing your feelings can be really hard. Especially when it comes to past relationships and people you used to care about. It's important to ask yourself if you want to get back together with him or if you just need someone to be close to. Do you miss him? Or the idea of him? There's a big difference between missing someone and missing the idea of someone. If you feel like you should open up to him, then that's probably the right decision. But think about it before doing so. It's important to pay attention to your feelings. Take care!

The first thing that you must do is take full responsibility for yourself. It can only be up to you, and you alone to give yourself this closure. Your ex can't and will not give it to you. Just by asking this question, you've already taken full responsibility and realized it's ultimately up to you. Some questions that can help you in this stage are: Who are you holding on to an why? Does holding on to it make you truly happy or ae you holding on to something that you wish ended a certain way? Are you using this "holding on" to stay stuck and unresolved? Are you trying to avoid the loss or pain that the situation creates? etc etc You should be proud of yourself for that :) You have to make sure to take time to grieve. I cannot express how important this is, especially for a recent relationship. You need to take time to GRIEVE. Pushing your feelings away, or avoiding your emotions will not help at all. If you have to cry, let it all out. If you have to let go your anger, exercise, do something that helps. Journal, anything like that, that helps you to grieve the relationship for what it was. You need to take plenty time to do this, and not rush the process. Collect your strengths, focus on the positives of your new found singleness. Surround yourself by persons and things that make you happy and that understand you. Assess where you can make a positive change in your life. Look at what makes you happy, and stop trying to please others. Make a plan for the future. Determine what's important for you moving forward. Allow yourself to explore different possibilities/pathways, and see how they work out. It's okay if they don't all work out, but you never know until you try. Finally, create a ritual. Some persons write letters and burn them, some persons clean and remove any trace of what once was. Some persons write a letter and mail them. Some persons say everything they've had to say over the course of the relationship, and throw it away. Some persons write on plates and break them. A ritual can be an effective way to visualize yourself moving on from your past relationship and can offer some sense of relief. Hope this helps, xoxo.

Closure cannot usually be achieved from another, it comes from within you. Try and understand what it is you are struggling to accept, and then what you’re feelings and needs are. Why are you struggling to let go, what’s keeping you stuck? It’s a grief process that one must endure, not because a person had passed, but because that person is no longer a pert of our lives. Go through the motions, feel the sadness, the anger, and the confusion. Accept that things are different and that that is okay. How best can you move forward without this person? What do YOU need to do or change to be able to do that? Learning acceptance and determining your specific needs will help to gain closure in a situation of loss and change, but it must be about you.

Sometimes, we need to be able to provide ourselves with closure, rather than seeking it from other people. Closure, sometimes, is also simply our desire to regain contact with an individual. When feeling as if I want or need closure from someone, I first self-evaluate, and ask exactly what I am looking for. Is it for my own comfort and stability? Do I just want to speak with them again? These are all important questions, and we need to consider them with care. I oftentimes find that I am not feeling secure in myself without that person, and that working on personal growth is really what I need. Caring for myself intensely, both physically and mentally, can build up my confidence and self-esteem and eliminate my need for "closure". If you feel as if there is an open-ended question, however, that needs to be answered by the ex, asking them if they feel comfortable answering some questions for your own process of moving forward is the best way to proceed. Also remember to respect boundaries during the process, and if this person has asked you to cease communication with them, then you should respect that boundary.

Sometimes having no closure is the closure itself. It’s just that you are not yet ready to accept and let go. It’s understandable that break up is not an easy thing to do, moving on is a process that requires time. For now, just focus on yourself. You don’t need any closure to stop or to put an end about you how feel, it is just a matter of acceptance. Feelings won’t go easily no matter how badly we want it, only time can tell when and how. Occupy yourself with things, get busy, focus on work and other stuff, do sports, get to know other people and spend time with family.