How to get closure from my ex? I feel I need it.

Everyone processes things at a different rate and from my personal experience, my ex never needed closure but I felt that I did. The easiest way to do it is to just send a text of some kind asking for met somewhere (try somewhere public like a coffee shop). Hopefully, they agree (they also are allowed to say no if they feel they aren't ready), and just let them know what you have questions are. You are more than welcome to make it clear that you don't want to get back together but just need some closure for yourself in order to be able to move on. It's very important to only ask questions you are okay with hearing any answer to, not just the answer you want to hear. In the end, it may take a few times to get the closure you need but just know that they are your ex and if you guys have agreed not to get back together, then you have to be okay with leaving it at that.

The wording of this question is particularly interesting because it implies that closure comes from some place outside of yourself. It is easy (and therefore perhaps preferable) to think that closure is owed from one person to another person. However thinking in this way puts the onus (and eventual goal) of "closure" outside of yourself, which can leave you feeling disempowered and not in control of your feelings. (If someone else is responsible for your closure, then you may or may not obtain it.) It is important to realize that once a relationship is disbanded, the social contract of partnership is also ended, and unless that person legally shares something with you (bank accounts, houses, children), they are not required to give you anything. Thus, anything you feel you need from them may or may not be given, at their own discretion. This is a hard truth to learn, but it can also empower us to give ourselves what we need to feel closure, to feel cared for, and to ultimately feel better. If you feel you need closure, a great first step is to reflect, think, or journal about why you feel closure is needed. Once you have your answer, brainstorm on how you can proactively meet that need. [For example: Do you need closure because you feel lost? What makes you feel lost? What would help you feel more directed? What concrete steps can you take to get back on course? Do you need to engage more with work, get back in touch with your hobbies, or do more for you? OR: Do you need closure because you feel the end of the relationship was traumatic? What made it traumatic? How can you address and heal that trauma? Do you need to engage in introspection, seek counseling, or find a new solution (one that you can bring about on your own)?] When we reclaim responsibility for our feelings and our needs, we become empowered because we are not relying on other people for our healing. This way, we know we can find closure and heal, because closure and healing are things we are willing to afford ourselves, without relying on the willingness of another party to engage with us.

I guess you there are to important things there, first you have to be certain about the breakup and secondly you need time, believe it or not time heals or wounds. Certainty is very important, once you are you sure that the breakup is definitive you can really start hurting, and then you'll hurt for a while, probably think about her/him quite a lot. But with time you'll see you start to think about other people, or at least you are no thinking about her/him anymore, then you be ready to start something new. So don't worry if now you feel like the hole you have won't ever go away, cause it will, i promise, but it does hurt like a bitch hahahah, Good Luck mate.

It’s hard to feel like you need closure from someone you once loved. I’ve been down that road before. If you need closure, you should confront that person. That’s how It helped my situation. It’s hard to move on from someone when you don’t have any clue why they would do the things they did to you. You could be upfront and ask, “why?” “Why did you do this to me?” “Did you have any good reason?”. To keep from intimidating them, let them know that you won’t be upset and that you just need clarity in order to move on from this situation. I hope this helped.

I tell myself everything is going to be ok, and that maybe it was not meant to be. I remind myself that it is ok and if we really loved each other that much then we would get back together with time. it has helped me greatly and I tried some different techniques to help calm myself down and I chat with all these cool people who I am glad to call my friends. ( I even formed a little crush on someone, no I won't say who nehehehe) But I kept pushing myself foreword and made my number one goal be fixing myself and my problems. and maybe one day they would return.

Sometimes closure has to come from within. We might not get closure from the other person, so we have to accept that. We can gain closure by accepting that the relationship is over and we can move forward. Telling ourselves that we were fine before we met him, we will be fine now that he isn't a part of our life anymore. Closure doesn't mean that we come together to make amends. Sometimes it's that we weren't right for each other and now it's time to go forward and find new meaningful relationships.

Missing someone you love or used to love is a natural part of letting go when a relationship ends. Missing an ex months after you ended things with them is one of the most difficult experiences that we can have as a person. To get closure is a journey that takes many steps and it starts with communication and giving yourself the room to breathe. Talking to your ex if it isn't too hurtful could be a good way to receive closure and end your personal relationship on peaceful and agreeable terms. On giving yourself the room to breathe, taking care of yourself. Another method could be to write all the words you never got to say down on paper and give yourself closure if communication is unavailable.

Closure is important. It is the one thing that ensures you have no regrets, which would allow you to move on with the rest of your life. The pain of a heartbreak and having to move on from the person you once loved is challenging and often times the hardest to do. It starts from within you. You've got to accept the reality of the situation, accept the fact that they are your ex for a reason, that things ended for a reason. Give yourself time to realise the situation as it can take a while. Closure does not happen overnight; instead it is a process that happens gradually, depending on your pace. Take responsibility on your part and understand that not everything works out the way you hoped for. And that's okay. Life lessons are taught as we live and learn. Look for areas that are actively bringing you down and try to look for alternative ways to cope with the pain, because you're an independent and strong person who deserves the love, regardless of who gives it you. Exercise an independent mindset and know that the life lessons are learned best when you experience them so you can move on, wiser and stronger.

Everyone's closure can be different. Some people believe they can only get true closure but by talking to their ex, some people write cards and then never send them. Make sure to focus on what you believe you need and put yourself first. Try different methods and see what works best for you. Healing is a process and no one act will magically fix it but as you try different things you will begin to know yourself and what you need. I would suggest starting off by releasing all of your emotions into a letter to get it off your chest. Whether you send it or not is up to you. However, remember to focus on what you need, not how it will make anyone else feel.

When I was in a similar situation, I knew my preferred choice of closure would be written communication (i.e a text), rather than verbal (i.e a phone call). In order to move on, I also felt like I needed it. It is natural and completely alright to feel that way, or to not feel that way. So do whatever you think is necessary to make yourself happy or content. Your emotional and well being matter a lot. I am sorry you are going through a difficult time, if you ever need support always feel free to connect to a listener.