How to get closure from my ex? I feel I need it.

One good way to help process things is to write down the things that were good in the relationship, and the things that were bad. Often times, the things that were bad tend to outnumber the things that were good. And even when it doesn't, it still tends to put some clarity into the situation. Remember the good, hold on to it and learn from it, and remember the bad to remind of you of why things didn't work out. Hold on to that list, as time goes on, details tend to blur. It's easy to remember only somethings, and having a list to remind you that it wasn't all sunshine and rainbows can really help when you're feeling bad. Or, it can help to refer to the good times when you're feeling low.

Sometimes, when you do not get the closure you want, you have to demand it. You owe that to yourself. Call them, text them and tell them what you want, and make it clear that you want it. I know it is hard to be so harsh on someone you cared for so much, but you have been harsh on yourself too for not giving yourself what you needed. And in this case, you needed a closure. You have to know your worth and you have to know what you need for yourself. Despite what people around you may tell you, to not contact your ex again, if you think you will feel better with the answers, then go for it. You come first. Nobody else. Remember that.

The best way to get closure is just sit down and have a serious conversation about where it went wrong, the reasons it happened, and if there’s ever a chance for anything to happen again. Ideally having a lengthy conversation and hitting every point helps. This also depends from person to person but just not planning the conversation but instead saying everything in her mind and taking turns speaking without interruption helps. There’s no need to rush the conversation as it can be very emotional. Never hold back on certain things. Just saying everything on your mind prevents future regret

Sometimes, you have to make your own closure. Whether it is hanging with friends, binge-eating ice cream, or talking to someone about your feelings, no, it is not easy, and you may not be able to get the closure you really want. Define your own closure and make it something that will make you happy. Coming from experience, obsessing over getting closure can become unhealthy, and that's no way to live. Wondering about the what-ifs or what could have been can make things worse. So, be around those who love you and cherish who you are and look forward to what the future holds!

From my personal experience, I got closure from meeting up with them/messaging them and speaking openly about the relationship and why it ended. We argued a little after we broke up but that also helped me to get over them quicker and realise that there could be someone better and more respectful out there. I also spoke about my feelings towards them, letting them know that I would still be there if needed, however I feel as though this wasn’t a good idea for me to do. I recommend chatting with them when you are both comfortable, expressing some feelings and then ending things completely on a good note.

Are you on good terms? Is there a way for you to reach out that is healthy for both of you? If yes, then send them a text or ask to call. Find a healthy, safe way to communicate with the least amount of pain for both parties. It's so normal to feel like you need closure - I still get the urge to text my exes, even after years - but the most you can do is be open and honest with them, and if they do not communicate with you effectively in a way that eases your stress, then the best you can do is move on.

When relationships end, closure is often needed. Some relationships end when one person is left confused and wondering what went wrong without any explanation. Without closure, it can leave a person with sadness, hopelessness and even depression. It is okay to try and reach out to your ex to receive closure if they allow you to. However, sometimes it is best if a person does not get closure. Someone new can walk into your life for the better, and make you forget that you needed closure in the first place. Stay positive, stay strong, and don't forget to keep your head up

Talk to them about your feelings and think of it as a normal conversation with sentimental values!!!

Understand that not every small detail from your relationship that meant a lot to you will get closure. Sometimes closure only comes with time and moving on. I've been in a relationship for two years and still didn't feel closure until my ex came crawling back to me - and when I said no politely, I still felt empty without it. But time helped the most, and growing apart helps even better.

He best closure from a relationship that has ended is through friends and family, for example go to the movies or bowling with some friends to get your mind off things.