How to get closure from my ex? I feel I need it.

You should take a step back and think about yourself. What do you want for yourself? Your future? Also focus on what an amazing experience you had with that person, do not focus on the end result. All good things must come to end, leaving only the memories. Think about how much you have changed since the relationship began. What things about you have been changed for the better? I honestly do not know what else to say, just use your experience to make you a BETTER you! I know losing anyone you care deeply about can be tough, but cherish the memories and learn from your journey.

The best way from my personal experience, is to find in yourself what you found in them. Getting over an ex is a really difficult thing, and it may take some time. If they’ll agree, talk through what went wrong and why you’re broken up so you’re not left hanging. If you know why, but feel like it didn’t make sense ask about that as well, or anything you’re feeling unsure about. Closure is a good thing, especially if you feel like you need it from the relationship. Make sure you give yourself time to recover from the relationship as well, before going into a new one, to make sure you got the closure you were looking for.

Accept it. i have been down the same path in the past couple of months with a guy who i was in a relationship with and the thing is you never know you have closure until you do. surround yourself with people you love and things you love / enjoy to do. when you distract your mind from things that remind you of him / her they will slowly fall to the back of your mind without you even realising that it’s happening and when you do notice it will be in second nature to have them in the back of your mind.

I feel that it really helps to have personal understanding of why the relationship ended. And in order to get there, it helps to answer a few questions honestly. Are you looking for ways to get back with your ex? If yes, do you think that whatever problems you had before can be solved? If you feel hurt by the way your ex departed from the relationship, did you tell them about your feelings? Are you going to feel better if you share that with them? Did you leave anything worth-saying, unsaid? There are other things to consider, but I often found that these questions usually kept you wondering if they lingered unanswered.

I feel that in order to get the closure that you need from an ex can be a difficult situation to approach, but something like this needs time, yourself and your ex both need time to adapt to the changes that you are both going to experience at a world wind force, the heartbreak and the loss of a relationship that was once so familiar and warm, you’ve got to let yourself heal before you can step forward and have the closure that you need in order to move on and feel loved again. But subconsciously when you’ve learned to heal in time you’ll have already gotten the closure that you need without seeking it

Focus on yourself and the people around you. Once your mind is not on your ex or whatever they did, you'll be much happier and present in your life. Looking ahead helps us not linger on the past and what "might've been". Accepting that the past is the past can definitely help you achieve closure. If there is something that needs to be cleared up, talking it out with them is a good first step to take. After that, you can try to find a good way to deal with whatever brings up bad feelings about the relationship with your ex.

You can contact them and suggest a meeting in a neutral place to have a calm discussion. State your feelings clearly and give your ex the opportunity to tell you how they feel. Agree on a maximum amount of time to talk beforehand and avoid arguing. Remember, this is closure, not revenge, and it is important to stay positive and relaxed through the entire conversation. End on a positive note and thank them for talking to you. It may be difficult to have an emotional discussion like this after a break-up, but you will feel better and emotionally grow from the experience.

I find closure from within myself. My ex does not crontrol how I feel or my actions. Being kind to myself and doing self-care helps me be re-centered. I reflect on activities I used to do that I didn't do while in a relationship. I consider if those things are valuable to me. If they are, I strive to do at least one of them. I set a realistic time frame for myself to do one of those activities. For my closure and healing, I think of the good memories, acknowledge that there were good experiences with my ex, but also am realistic about what wasn't good. I think of what would make a future relationship better. For example, considering things in my control (myself), and how I can make changes to have a great relationship with myself and others.

1. give yourself time to mourn these feelings need to be felt and let out. holding them in will only result in breakdowns which will only make things worse. 2. i need to gain control on how you're going to make myself happy this process will help me find myself and feel in control about what i enjoy doing and what i don’t enjoy doing. 2. talk to friends they help you make those smart decisions. 3. no dating i obviously don’t want to, i need time to heal, figure myself out, i need time to reflect and process what happened. i don’t want the feeling of a warm body or sexual pleasure. i want love, real love, long term. and ill learn more of what i want when i first learn what makes me happy other than another person. 4. figure out what makes me happy this is all about me now. this is my time to do what i want. its a relationship between me, myself and i so let me get comfortable. 5. relax, treat yourself. meditate, color, read, run. just take a break and relax. smell candles. just chill , you deserve it. 6. set boundaries people need to learn to respect my boundaries in any relationship and if they don’t then they don’t respect me and i don’t have time or energy to deal with disrespect anymore. 7. be clear about what you want for your future over time, you will learn while loving yourself what is good for you and what you want.

Everyone needs a different closure depending on how deep we are connected to the people around us, events or things. When I was questioning my decisions regarding job or love I approached both with honesty, openness and curiosity. It is important that we are in touch with our emotions, our body signs of what instinctively feels right to us and try not to rationalize too much, but rather just be present. Maybe we should not ask for closure from our ex partners, but rather to think about as continuing process of building the relationships. If one finds that their ex partner is a human being that they want in their life maybe one does not want to call for closure, but rather for wisdom and possibility to transform and accept. Some people stay in our lives and some don't. If the ex is someone who should not be in our lives they will simply not be. If one really needs a visible "closure" maybe it is a good thing to meet with the ex and just reflect and say "good bye". Sometimes that can be useful. Sometimes if we don't have that opportunity it is a useful practice to write a poem or two, read the book regarding break ups and somehow create emotional distance from the source of love anxiety yet in some way still find healing and content. And sometimes just have a cup of tea and in time the healing will take place. Just love yourself and be sure that the "ex" is "ex" for a reason.