How to get closure from my ex? I feel I need it.

Getting closure is difficult. It is different for everybody. I, for example, am a very symbolic person. I like to give meaning to everything. I also like always saying what's on my mind, I am very honest and transparent with my feelings. I tried talking with my ex to tell her thanks for the time we spent together, thank her for what she helped me grow though and say sorry for what I knew I did wrong... but she didn't wanted to talk. So I wrote her a letter. I concentrated my attention on making that letter the final step for closure. I wrote EVERYTHING, always respecting her and in a tone that would make that letter good for both of us. Eventually I left it in her car. That was my closure to that breakup.

I think communication is must here. Without letting your partner know about what our want you can't expect them understand.

Consider if you really want closure, or if you're trying to restart the relationship. If you truly need the closure, be direct in telling your ex your need for closure. It's hard, but try to be satisfied when that closure is given and respect whatever answer you receive.

try to talk to him and tell him how you feel,explain that you want to try and make it better and that you need someone right now

It is best to pinpoint what happened, that is where you get the real closure from. It would be best not to force it from him but to think of what might've been of the decision

How to get closure from your ex,in my personal experience I never tried to get in contact with them I deleted all the contacts and messages with them to make sure I don't think about them anymore

What works for your friend, may not work for you, remember that. Everyone takes a different amount of time to feel and reach closure. One thing you can do is to meditate. It clears the mind and allows for more clear thinking. You can write a letter, but not intend to send it. Don't hold back while writing it either, say everything you've wanted to say and then throw it away. You also need to realize that forgiveness is not condoning. You have already forgave your ex by moving on. There's no need to say it in words, when you've already done it in actions.

When experiences linger like this it often points to some kind of pain that we have been ignoring. It's kind of like a bruise you forgot you had and then accidentally bumping it. Your ex has left (I assume) and you are by yourself in these moments of pain. What I am trying to say is that you are still reacting to something that isn't physically or actively bothering you. What ever fear or worry exists is coming from within you entirely. One way to approach this is to ask yourself "If this pain had a voice what would it say?". Then be ready to listen! It might be hard but you can't change what you can't see, right? Find out what it is in you that is holding on and why.

It’s normal to have questions or just things you don’t understand after a break up. If at all possible you could always get closure from the ex, you both could sit down and talk it out. If not you can also find some sort of closer from yourself and understanding your role in the relationship and if you played a part in its ending. There’s two sides to every story so i think it’s best to figure out yours first, and then try to understand someone else’s side. Also please understand your feelings are completely valid and you have a right to feel the way you do.

It depends what you need closure about. If you want closure about why he or she ended it then just ask it will not hurt if you do not try. If it is about anything related to why you guys broke up just figure out what happened that may have made him or her unhappy. Think about your happy memories and the unhappy ones. Ask his or her friends why you think he or she ended it. If they do not know I feel you should ask him or her and just allow the response from them to be understood or ask for more details if they are vague.