How to get closure from my ex? I feel I need it.

Forgive, but don't forget. FORGIVE them for whatever drove you both toward break up. Don't hold on to the negative things that happened between y'all in the past. Instead, remember the good and blissful memories that you once shared. The only thing holding onto negative feelings will do to you is keep you from enjoying your next relationship. If the break up wasn't messy, then a talk is surely the right way to go for the closure you need. If it wasn't pretty, still forgive even if it wasn't their fault. You need to be at peace; not only in your mind, but your heart as well. You can do it, but patience will be the key factor.

Have you tried asking him? If yes and he is not cooperative then you will just have to seek closure by knowing that whatever it is you are not part of it anymore and you can move on.

In my own experience with exes, knowing what the both of you feels about the situation through talking it out like civilized people is the most efficient way to get closure. I know it's scary but, if both parties know the sides and opinions of each other, it will lead to understanding and eventually, closure.

What I have learned about getting closure from an ex is this... You can not rely on the other person to provide that closure for you. Forgive yourself and don't be hard on yourself. The closure will not fix what you are feeling. The best thing to do is forgive yourself and use that as your closure. It will get better.

Sometimes, looking for closure could end up hurting you and your former partner even more than the breakup did, And really whether closure is the right the right thing for you is dependent on how the relationship was ended. Finding closure also shouldn't happen right away after a break up. It takes time to settle all the depression and pain that came with the breakup. A clear and open mind is needed to properly handle closure so further damage is prevented. Mutual breakups tend to be easier to receive closure than ones that end on really bad terms.

I have been in your place before and I can say closure is a good choice after a breakup I suggest that you sit down and talk to your ex and settle any problems.

The first step is you. Do you even want to move on? Or do you want to stay stuck in the moment, hoping he'll come back? Once you find your determination to move on, it's easier from there onwards.

I am not sure if its closure but I have certainly moved forward , I had to keep in mind all the bad times instead of the good , also talked threw the break up with a councillor, it took a while and it was painfull but the more I talked the less painfull it was ,the other important thing is to find something that I liked doin to take my mind of her all the time ,Today I hardly think about it and if I do its not for very long , I have acknowledged that we spent part of our lifes together and have some fond memories but that was only part of my life not it all ,and am quite ok being alone as it gives me a chance of meeting the right person for me

Just talk to them; it's easier said than done, but it is the most important component of a relationship-even if it is to end it. Talking to your partner can help set expectations, and clarify any past actions or words from either party. Text them, let them know that it's over, but you need closure, and talk about whatever is on your mind. Don't be shy, or hesitant when it comes to this; if they talk, you'll be at peace, and if they don't, you know what the relationship means to them, and they're not worth your time, and you're still at peace. It's a win-win! Hope this helps :)