Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

How to forgive someone who cheated on you?

Profile: empatheticListener123
empatheticListener123 on Nov 21, 2020
...read more
Let yourself grow and it will come naturally there is no reason forcing it. Everything will come in the right place at the right time. Understanding and accepting is a big step and learning to accept the adverse experiences is totally the hardest part here. Nothing sad is ever easy to manage but if managed correctly it will help us grow and develop psychologically. The more we learn ourselves the more we mature and are able to deal with various situations that demand our effort and energy.Forgining a person that did harm you can really be healing in other words.
Struggling with Breakups?
Find relief with 7 Cups online therapy.
...read more
Forgiveness can come in all different ways and all different speeds. The pain brought with the act of cheating is something that takes time to heal, and there is no need in trying to rush the process. Talking to the person might help, since understanding their side of the story can help you understand the situation a little better as well. But there is no need in talking to the person if you don't feel comfortable doing so. Forgiving is not forgetting. We cannot do anything to control other people's actions, but what we can do is control our own actions towards the situation. Holding negative feelings is not helpful for anyone involved, but it is a more than understandable thing to do, and there are some things that only time can heal.
Profile: MarissaHope
MarissaHope on Dec 12, 2020
...read more
If someone cheated on you, that can effect us, in a bad way, and can be very hard to cope with. It’s hard for us to forgive someone we love who cheated on you. But you would need to give it time, there’s a saying that says time heals everything. I can’t promise that’s true, but if you give it time, you maybe can find it in your heart to forgive the person who cheated on you, I’m not saying you should stay together. But giving it time, you can forgive and forget. And i truly wish everyone could have a perfect relationship, but that doesn’t always happen
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 17, 2020
...read more
You don’t ever have to forgive. It’s a choice that you make for yourself. If I were you, I would only forgive if they prove it will never happen again. Definitely talk to them about it and figure out why the cheating occurred and how you both can overcome it as a team. Communication is KEY! You need to be open about your thoughts and feelings about the situation. Maybe journal about how you’re feeling as well. Again, you don’t have to forgive. Only do what is best for you. Remember, trust is earned, not forgiven. Good luck! !
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 19, 2020
...read more
Talk to them and know that you don’t deserve to be with someone if they are just going to go out with someone else behind your back. No one deserves to be with someone who doesn’t want to be loyal to them no matter what they think. Everyone deserves someone who believes in them and is loyal to them no matter what they’re going through and no matter wether they think they deserve it or not they do and no one can say otherwise. The person who cheated on them doesn’t deserve them and if they are forgiven they’ll feel bad and hopefully won’t do it again.
Profile: purplecat3132
purplecat3132 on Jan 8, 2021
...read more
You have to forgive yourself first. Without forgiving yourself you will not be able confidently go back to trusting your partner. You have to forgive the "I'm not good enough" and "I'm not pretty as her or her or her" thoughts. Those thoughts about yourself will eat you inside out. Forgive yourself for having them and find a way to love yourself first. Trust will be a hard concept to earn now, but you can't trust if you let those thoughts consume you. Or sometimes you won't be able to forgive a person who has broken your trust and hurt you and that is okay too.
Profile: yessilistener
yessilistener on Jan 14, 2021
...read more
Time. Everything takes time to heal, especially when it comes to the betrayal of trust. Trust is very difficult to rebuild, but it is possible with time. If you want to forgive them, you will have to put in work too, you can't expect them to beg their way through. Trust can and has to be rebuilt with the effort of both parties. You will have to work on rebuilding your self-esteem/confidence, your trust, and how to manage your emotions. They will have to work on regaining your trust and how to be more reliant. I think that there has to be a lot of understanding and new compromises made in order to reach common ground.
Profile: heysyl
heysyl on Jan 29, 2021
...read more
for me forgiveness is more about finding peace within yourself and releasing resentment than making the other person feel good or forgetting that what they did hurt you. I think it's important first to acknowledge all the emotions that arise from being betrayed: feel angry, sad, hurt, etc so that you can move through the experience without dismissing it. It becomes a whole lot easier to arrive at a place where you can see the person who betrayed you as a human and find empathy for why they did what they based on their own experience and not because you deserved it.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 22, 2021
...read more
Forgiving someone who cheated on you is not always easy and to be honest it won't happen over night it will take days or even longer to forgive someone who cheated on you whether it be emotionally or physically it takes time and it also depends on if the person asked for forgiveness and confessed to cheating makes it a lot better and easier to forgive other than someone who doesn't show remorse at all taking it day by day and also getting closure helps to make the process of forgiving someone easier over time you will end up forgiving the person and hopefully forgetting as well in order to move on do not dwell on the past take it day by day and it will all get better
Profile: Mimiverse
Mimiverse on Mar 10, 2021
...read more
Relationships are really fragile things. I can understand you may have a lot of reservations about forgiving someone who cheated on you and you have every right to feel the way you do. Its natural to feel disappointed and betrayed when you put yourself out there for someone and then the something shakes the rock foundation of your universe. To ask yourself the question "Do I trust them again?" says a lot about how much you care about this person. Forgiveness is something that cannot be forced and takes a long time. What we choose to forgive someone for can be conditional and must come from your own set of values and beliefs although others may advise you on how to feel and what to forgive and not forgive. If unsure on how to go by any stress in your relationship you can share your thoughts and feelings with a listener or an online therapist on our site. Other organizations that provide information and resources on relationship stress like Relate can provide you too with support or even couples therapy. Go by your own experience and intuition to move forward! You are capable of making your own choices!
Have a helpful insight? Don’t keep it to yourself.
Sharing helps others and its therapeutic for you.
0/150 Minimum Characters
0/75 Minimum Words