How do you find the words to break up with someone, when they have done nothing wrong, but you don't feel the same?
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Updated: Jan 25, 2022
lendingyouahand
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Jan 25, 2016
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You sit them down and explain how you're feeling. If you're dating them, they should respect you enough to not ruin your friendship.
Anonymous
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Jan 26, 2016
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Just say the truth about how you feel, it's not easy and it may hurt but being honest it's always better than living a lie. Sometimes relationships just don't work as we expected or it's not the right time or we just don't feel the same... In that moments we need to find the courage to face the truth and to be honest (whit the other person and with ourselves)
phantahna
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Apr 12, 2016
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Explain to them exactly how you're feeling and make it clear that you don't feel the same anymore. Make sure you express your emotions clearly so that they can understand to their best ability.
Ewoman007
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May 28, 2018
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You can always say the truth. There's nothing better than truth. It might hurt but it's always best for both of you
Sprouty1969
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Nov 2, 2020
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I have learned that people our put in our paths for a reason, sometimes to grow as individuals, sometimes to teach us things, sometimes to make us aware of what we want in a relationship and what we dont want. I feel we evolve many times along the way and our needs can change from time to time, what we thought we wanted when we were younger is not always what we need or want as we get older. As we change and we gain more wisdom the priorities in our life switch up, which includes relationships, our jobs,family dynamics, morals and values
alanbabani
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May 8, 2015
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It depends on the time that both of you have spend with each other. If you have not discovered any bad things between you both. Why do you even think about breaking up? It is not a rational question.
SlayIsMe
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Sep 7, 2015
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Nothing is better than being straight up honest, to be honest.
Tell them straight up. In a friendly, way, showing empathy but careful, without hurting them.
Anonymous
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Sep 14, 2015
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You try to do it as nice as possibly. In a way that makes you feel good about yourself as well as them.
Anonymous
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Nov 9, 2015
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Appreciate their feelings, acknowledge that you have taken the time to think things over. State why it is in both your interest to end things.
Anonymous
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Jan 27, 2016
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The best thing you can do is be honest even if you know it is going to hurt that person. sometimes things just don't work out and that's okay, you just need to tell them. It is kinder to the other person involved in the long run to tell them the truth than to leave them with false hope or lead them on. It will be difficult but you will feel much better if you just tell it how it is, at the end of the day you need to consider what is best for you and it is not fair for you to be unhappy just because you are scared or worried about ending it.
RonaldMunodawafa1993
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Feb 1, 2016
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Communication is very important in relationships and the simplest way to communicate anything is for all parties involved in the relationship to be open and accept the openness of the other parties. What has been communicated in the question itself is what can be communicated in the situation of the question.
magicalhope75
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Jun 28, 2016
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Simply tell them that though they haven't done anything wrong but you realised you don't feel the love for them..dont tell them they deserve better.. That willl make them feel worse.just be honest as they deserve it..just tell them you don't love them without any fault of theirs
Anonymous
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Nov 14, 2016
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Be straight forward but not too harsh. Remember to be sensitive of his/her emotion. Explain everything.
cuddlyBeauty79
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Jun 5, 2017
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You have to remember that being with someone that you don't have feelings for is not fair to them, if they never have done something wrong that means that they do not deserve to be let to invest any more in a relationship that the feelings are mutual
FlamingFlamingo
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Jan 5, 2021
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You don't have to have a reason to break up or you could have any reason, you do you man. Sometimes things don't work out, and that's okay. First, you'd want to tell them they haven't done anything wrong, they will probably think that if they were different things would have worked out so you'll want to stress that they haven't done anything wrong. If it isn't working out now, it isn't going to work down the line. Be considerate and kind, no one likes breakups and it's important to stay respectful. Be honest, tell them you do not feel the same way as you did. Maybe the spark the two of you had has burned out, and you've tried to reignite it but it didnt work out.
marvelousFlower55
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Jan 25, 2022
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Things can be said in many different ways. One such way is- "Please know that what I am about to say has nothing to do with you but everything to do with me, I highly regard you as a person but no longer feel the same as I once did, I am terribly sorry as I do not wish to bring you sadness, but to be honest with you in every way, It is my desire that you find your one true mate without any more delay, it has been my pleasure knowing you and I wish you the very best. You are a most delightful person, a warm caring individual with which anyone would desire to be acquainted , I thank you for the time I was blessed to have known you, go in peace and remember me as having been a kind and generous friend one who intends to do no wrong but wishes only to do good."
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