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How do you find the words to break up with someone, when they have done nothing wrong, but you don't feel the same?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 15, 2016
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You are great person n I do like you a lot.. but I don't feel the same about you.. maybe because I changed or my priorities changed.. I am so sorry.. but being in this relationship would be like cheating you and me both
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Profile: laylac09
laylac09 on Sep 14, 2015
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The whole "it's not you, it's me" thing would only make the person feel worse as its extensively overused and not in the right situations. Being honest really helps in these cases. Tell them that you do not feel that spark anymore. Be very honest but considerate of their feelings
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This can be an extremely tricky situation. The first thing I would recommend doing is stepping back and asking yourself why you want to break up with them, and if the roles were reversed, what you would want from them. In this instance, if it is safe to do so, sit down with them in person, and talk about your reasoning (of course in a compassionate way). The thing to remember is that you likely aren't going to avoid them being hurt. But, once that hurt fades, they will look back on everything and want answers, and an explanation. If you can give them that closure, it could make a difference. Although they might be upset at the time, they will be alright, and will eventually see that you were able to handle it and treat them with respect.
Profile: newbeginnings3
newbeginnings3 on Mar 13, 2015
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Be honest with them. Although it might hurt their feelings now, you're saving them the pain, trouble, and time because it's most likely not going to work out in the end if you don't feel the same way. You're probably going to end the relationship at one point later if not now. Be honest and tell that person that you do not feel the same way, and you are not their one. Let them know that they will move on in their life and find someone more compatible, and that they still have future relationships. Be there kindly and comfort them. Good luck!
Profile: PeacefulBerry18
PeacefulBerry18 on Jul 13, 2015
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The best thing is to just be honest - Your partner deserves that at least. It's ok to not share the same feelings as your significant other, you just have to say it as it is and move on.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 21, 2015
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This is especially difficult when your partner is very dedicated and devoted, but you simply don't feel attraction or love for them. The best answer I could give you is to be completely honest. Tell them it isn't their fault, but that you simply cannot be in a relationship where you don't feel romance for the other person. My best advice is that you don't make up excuses, but instead be totally honest. It won't be easy, but that was the best route for me.
Profile: peacefulWinter54
peacefulWinter54 on Mar 27, 2015
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Breaking up with someone just because you feel like it is the right thing to do can be difficult and also painful for the person initiating the breakup; I think once you convince yourself that you are truly breaking up that person because it is the right thing for you and that you are ready to move on, the words will just come to you. Don't make up reasons or point out little faults in the other person just to make them feel like it is their fault. It is no one's fault; feelings can change over time and there is nothing wrong with that.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 26, 2015
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Just be honest with them. Somethings aren't meant to be even though there is nothing wrong with them.
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Anonymous on Feb 6, 2018
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I would tell them that you don't understand what happened and you would like them to tell you what happened.
Profile: kindheartedVision39
kindheartedVision39 on Jan 2, 2017
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I think it's best if you keep the focus mainly on yourself instead of the other person (avoid blaming). 'I think we should go our separate ways because I need... , or I'm not ready for... ' I also think it's best to start with something like 'I think we should go our separate ways' before giving an explanation or reason. If you start with the reason the other person might think there's hope of working things out. And lastly let them know that you wish them the best. And if it feels that they might be receptive to it, remind them not to settle... they deserve someone who will appreciate all that they have to offer (as do you, which is why you're breaking up).
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