How do you deal with the temptation to contact your ex?

Ah the dreaded ex withdrawals! This plagues a large amount of people of all orientations and genders. My advice is the tough self love approach; cut all ties. Eliminate all areas of digital contact eg. Phone, social media. Every bit of it. In fact, block their number too. If you can’t get ahold of them then the temptation is thwarted unless you’re going to send a raven. Minimise in person contact. If you move in the same circles it’s best to give them a wide berth so you can sort through any underlying feelings with dignity and privacy. It takes time to get over someone but with self discipline and time it can be done.

Remember the reasons you stopped talking to them, remember the pain they made you feel. If previous attempts failed then future attempts may fail aswell. And that moving on, although difficult, is often the best thing to do.

Dealing with the temptation of contacting my ex partner (that I committed many years too) was difficult for me in the beginning. Constantly breaking up and getting back together was an emotional rollercoaster ride for me, however as soon as I start to feel the temptation of contacting him I just look at all of the physical scar's and mental abuse I endured and quickly remember the reason I walked away in the first place. I think about the good and the bad that came with the relationship and that kills any temptation that I was feeling and keeps me moving forward.

It's tough doing that but once you know how, it's better than ever.Firstly,you can do it by remembering why you two brokeup.And thinking whether you are ready to go for the same mess again or not.No, right? Or, think carefully if he / she is worth to contact again or not? And the last but not the least, know that there millions of people out in this world, and the time you want to spend contacting your ex , you can use it to find or invest in someone who actually loves you and knows your worth :)

Think about the reasons he became an ex in the first place, Think about the pros and cons that involves getting into contact with them

First and foremost, you must realize they're "your ex" for a reason. You two were together, and "something" happened that led one of you to break up that relationship. Now, when you're already outside of the relationship, all seems "better", but it really isn't - it's an illusion, we focus too much on the good things and forget the bad ones. Think about this, okay?

I know its hard to not have contact with the person but if you dont talk to them for say 4 days and they don't make an affort to talk to you in some way then they are not worth it gor you . You deserve beter 😊😌

The temptation can be very hard to resist, especially in this age where we can reach out to people on social media in a matter of seconds. I think the phrase 'Out of sight, out of mind' is very true so don't go looking them up on social media, remove them or block them if you feel it's necessary. Sometimes we think we're missing someone when what we're actually missing are the memories, the places, experiences, and the person we thought they were. Remember that this person is your ex for a reason, you broke up for a reason and that still exists. Try looking forward and thinking of positive things in your future and leave the past behind you.

There are many ways you can deal with the temptation of contacting an ex. Attempt to distract yourself. This can be achieved by starting a new hobby, especially those that use your hands. Some examples of this include; craft, baking, cooking, sports and art. You should also confide people close to you such as friends or family, even if they never met the person. You can do this in person, or simply call them instead of your ex. List reasons why calling your ex is a bad idea to help with this as well. The next option is to meditate. Clear your mind and get rid of these unwanted thoughts. Block everything out and envision yourself in your happy place, whether that be a physical place, an imaginary world, or with specific objects/people.