How do you deal with the temptation to contact your ex?

Stop and take a moment to think about it. What will you get out of reaching out to them? Drawing from previous experience, really consider how you'll feel afterwords. It's hard disconnecting from an ex because they were such a big part of our lives for a while, and it's hard to change our routines. But at some point we have to think about why they're an ex now, and consider whether it's in our best interest to continue to expose ourselves to that person. I do believe that sometimes ex's can be friends, but give yourself some time to heal before you try that if that's the path you ultimately want to take. You never know, down the line you might realize that's not what you want at all.

Well if the relationship ended on a bad note (which im assuming it did) remind yourself of why you broke off in the first place and affirm that reason in your mind. If that doesn't work then try to distract yourself, perhaps talk to a friend or parent about it if you are still unsure or uneasy about how things ended.

Take some deep breaths and try to remember why you became exes. Sometimes it's better to just move on. Busy your mind and try to focus on yourself and more important issues.

There’s a few thing that you can do to deal with that- 1. Think of all the times they’ve made you cry ( in a negative way) 2. Think of all that that makes them bad and unworthy of you 3. Think of how there are so many people who are better than your ex in the world, like come on, there are 7 billion of us, there ought to be one. 4. Develop a hard core crush on a celebrity (works like magic

One way I have found is that when the urge to contact an ex creeps up, I think of it as an exchange of power. By reaching out and contacting them, I have paced the ball in their court to respond or not respond. That is in itself an exchange of power. I have given them the power to potentially effect me, whether it be by rejecting me, or speaking angrily to me, or attempting to talk their way back into a relationship that I might not want with them. By contacting them I have opened up all these possibilities and given them power.

Find anything that distracts you. Try watching a good movie if you want. Hang out with your friends and family, play with your dog or any pet if you have it. Pick up a Hobby block them. Delete any pictures of them that you might have. Out of sight out of mind. Try writing your feelings down in a journal to help cope with the loss. Try contacting a listener if things get too hard. If you feel like you’re in crisis, call a hotline. Trying some self-care like taking a bubble bath or using a bath bomb or cleaning your house.

It sounds kinda extreme, but I delete my ex phone number and unfriend in all social media. The reason why is that this person is an EX. Meaning this person is part of my past and if I want to learn from this experience, I have to be able to look at the future. It doesn't mean that I am hostile if I unexpectedly see them, I will still say hello and be polite, especially if it wasn't a toxic relation. But, there is a reason why the relation ended and it is okay to accept that we cannot change things about it. It doesn't make us failure, it just makes us human.

write a email; but don send it; don´t call she or he is going to hurt you; write down every single time you want to contact him/her and this way you are going to be able to pass the day. Put your self little baby steps; like..."Im not going to call him today" he/she left you; if you try to contact your ex; eventualy he is going to hurt you again.

I've keep the good connection with all my exes. I don't have problems with exes. But if I still hurt I will distract my mind by work

Total erase delete his number don't hang out with mutual friends and find a couple of extra hobbies