How do you deal with the temptation to contact your ex?

It's understandable to want to contact an ex. I suppose we need to ask ourselves why. I mean if you ended things badly and want closure, then maybe once both of you have cleared your head, you guys can talk. But if you know that the ex is definitely bad for you, then you need to ask yourself why you want to contact them. For most of us it is familiarity. They may be bad for us and we know it but being with them is familiar for us rather than this new reality. So it's easier much easier for us to go back to that comfort zone even though they may have hurt us and betrayed us. In those times, we need to focus on ourselves. Do what makes us happy and truly enjoy it. And if being alone at the moment seems impossible, choose to spend the time with friends. Write or type a small note stating the reason you guys broke up and when you feel the temptation, read that note and remind yourself how much courage and strength it took for you to be in the place you are now.

I would like to keep myself busy and when you do find yourself lonely or alone, you have to remind yourself why is this peron a ex? Things are the way they are for a reason. So thinking about why usually helps. Also the person who is responsible for making you feel sad can't also be the one that makes you happy. That's just a temporarily solution. Every break up is tough in the beginning. It may seem like your heart is ripped out and you can NOT live without that person but believe me when I say: it WILL get better. Give yourself some time and it's okay to let your feelings out. Just don't follow the same road everytime when you know where it ends.

It is important for people to take time to heal from a relationship. I understand that not everyone will completely heal but it is important for you to try to distract yourself and not go back to where you were. You will get past the moment and be able to go up from there. Entertain yourself and do things that make you feel better. It is also important to surround yourself with people who make you feel important and safe. This way you won't feel tempted to reach out to an ex. Do not reply to any messages you might receive from them as well. That person just wants to know if you miss them or letting you know they are still around but do not get back to them.

Being in love once with someone means you have been connected with someone for long time without them it might feel like end of the world. Though have you ever wonder what was the reason you breakup think about it there must have been so many reason like which made you think about all the things that you had and you could not continue being in that stress so you had to end all what was once started from nothing now you are once again at the start point and you are lonely .So brain be like it is much better to be with my ex rather to be alone and now you have this temptation which you can not get over with

Restraining yourself from contacting your ex can be really though. I think we could maybe spend more time with family and friends it really helps to get your mind off it. You could also start doing a hobby or doing something that you always wanted to do but couldn't. Keeping your phone away is one major thing to be done. I would recommend physical activity because it really calms us down and helps us think. I have been in such a similar situation so from experience i can say it's best not to contact your ex. Letting go off the past is be very helpful.

Try to remind yourself why they are an ex and distract yourself. Distract yourself with something you love or start doing something productive. Remind yourself of why the relationship ended and how calling them would impact you in the long-run. Will you get more hurt than you already are? If not, then why not contact them? If they're a bad impact for you and you'll end up more hurt, then don't you think you have to put up with the antiseptic's burn before infection and further damage take place? Think of both your younger and future self: how would they feel? Think of what you know you should do,

i feel like you should try and remember why you broke up ,and try and think about why you want to contact them is it because you miss them or you miss being in a relationship and ask yourself if its worth going through the cycle of heartbreak over again because that is inevitable in those kinds of situations. Don't trick yourself with the notion of becoming his/her friend using the logic that he was a good friend but a bad lover because if he/she hurt you by cheating, lying, physically hurting you or otherwise and he/ahe did all this to someone they were supposed to be in love with then you can't count on him/her being a good friend. His/her advice wont be reliable, and their opinion will be biased based on the fact that you were in a physical and romantic relationship. So all can say is take a day or a week and really think about it and if you still want to do then go ahead, just make sure its something you actually want to do and that you're doing it for the right reasons.

I think taking a deep breath and thinking about what the implications of texting your ex partner would be, should be your first two steps. Take a moment and ask yourself, will this benefit me in the future? If not, ask yourself why you'd want to do something that may harm your future. I would also talk to someone close to me or reach out to a listener, so I could contact someone besides my ex. It can be tempting if someone is lonely or in a bad mood to contact their ex, but if they take a moment to do something else, talk to a friend or thinking about how this may harm you, can help your reframe your mind. Finally, just be kind to yourself. Practice some self-care if needed and do something that you really enjoy that doesn't involve your ex. Whatever makes you feel happy, can help you overcome any temptation! :)

That can definitely be a challenge, can’t it. One thing that has helped me is to delete their number out of my phone. That way I can text him or anything. I also block them from contacting me. If he or she is on social media it may be a good idea to delete them and block them there too. That way you won’t be tempted to peak at their profile and see what they’re doing. Another big thing is to find something that fills your soul and makes you happy. Do you have some hobbies that you love? Are there some friends you lost contact with that you may want to reconnect with? Is there a place you can volunteer at that you support? Volunteering is also a great way to meet likeminded people. It’s good to occupy your time with the things that make you happy. It takes time to heal from a break up but those are things that have helped me. By shifting the focus from your ex on to yourself, it makes the temptation to reach out easier. You may also have a friend that is willing for you to text them rather than texting your ex. That’s been helpful too! Good luck getting over him or her! You can do this and emerge stronger on the other side!

I try to focus on other, more important things in my life. I keep the perspective that we are exes for a reason, and with that, I am less tempted to contact them. By focusing on things important to me now, it helps me not get distractd by the past. Some examples of things that are important to me now are my hobbies and career goals. These might be different from my ex's anyway, which helps remind me further that we likely weren't compatible for a reason/reasons. I hope this answer was helpful to anyone who is feeling this way currently!