How do you deal with the temptation to contact your ex?

Just think of how you are doing now and go talk to a friend that was there thur your relationship and who was there when it ended and see the thoughts of how they hirt you or ruined your life

Sometimes the temptation to contact your ex partners can be strong and overwhelming. I tend to find that a good way to deal with this temptation is to try and occupy your thoughts with something else, such as a hobby, reach out to friends or even right down your thoughts in a journal

It is very personal thing, you should always try to find what suits you the best! For me it was a simple thing i've read: Make a note of 2-5 things that made you break up, the things you dislike about your ex and simply read it each time you feel like contacting. My list had 50+ things and only a few weeks later, i don't even think about contacting. Repulsive thought even! It has really helped me, hope it helps you too!

I would think about why you guys broke up. Usually if the break up went bad, you can think of those things and that will probably put your mind at ease from contacting them 😁

I drop their number and Facebook/Instagram from my phone! Social media accounts make it so tempting to check in, or have a cheeky stalk. But I never feel good afterwards. I usually just end up comparing my own situation to theirs, and it often brings up emotions and negative experiences. Not having the constant reminder of their Instagram on your feed helps to remove the temptation. It also means you are filling your screen with positivity rather than negativity. It also helps to contact a friend or family member instead - they can be a great distraction from your ex and will always have time for you.

I remember how badly my ex-boyfriend treated me, especially after we broke up. We used to text for a little bit, but ultimately he hurt me so bad that I had to cut him out of me life. It has been almost a full year since we have started dating. I remember how depressed I was, but I bounced back by surrounding myself with good people and I occupied myself with lots of activities. I did things that I loved, like dance and studying science, so I could distract myself from him. I forgot about him for five months, and when I thought of him again and remembered what he did to me, I didn't feel as depressed. How do I deal with the urge to text my ex? I don't. I blocked him and deleted him out of my life xD

It really depends on how the relationship ended. Some people leave in such good terms they are even friends after the relationship has ended. If this is not the case I think it is a good idea to ask yourself what is it that I want to accomplish by calling him/her. If after this you still stand your temptation then just mentally prepare for what might come by this I mean either rejection or acceptance. If wanting contact is all emotional versus logical just go along with it and get it out the way. Who knows you might like the results or you may not but at least you will not be wondering what would had happened if I would had called.

if i ever get tempted to message my ex i write a list of pros and cons of messaging them. from this list i pick out 3 important ones which stand out the most. these 3 things will go towards if i message them or not. most of the time i dont message them but if i feel the strong urge to i will send them a text about something completely random and if they respond and hold the conversation then i say what i need to say and then if they ignore me then i tend not to message them again unless they message me first.

If i get the temptation to contact my ex, the things i do are 1. remember everything that he has said or done to me that was not acceptable 2. read old messages of when he was being nasty to remind me that its not okay and I should not go back to that If that doesnt work then the best thing to do is divert your mind onto someone or something else, there is always another way. Dont contact an ex ..arent they an ex for a reason? if you do fall and contact them then dont sit and be annoyed at yourself for that, that is also a bad thing to do, just don't contact them again but tell them it was a mistake that you contacted them so they know you didnt mean it and dont want any further contact.

The ending of an announcement is quite difficult. With the passing of time or for the sake of old times, or because we are going through a difficult time or for some other reason, we have the desire to call the person who once had a very important role in it. Whenever you have the urge to call your ex, think about why you ended up with him or her and whether you want to go back to the same situation you were in or if you want to open the wound again. Most of the time people call on the ex to have a false sense that things do not change and that everything remains the same but the best way and to face the challenges and get them to overcome them. Regardless of how they ended up and in what terms they were after that, you need time to think about yourself and what you are going to do, but in the future, the former may be a great pillar in your life, but initially you need to move away so you do not create an illusion in your head that does not exist.