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How do you deal with the temptation to contact your ex?

Profile: Moonartisan
Moonartisan on Jun 30, 2018
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I deal with this temptation by putting it on my low priority list but if it's constant and won't leave my mind I make myself busy or I remember the important things I need to accomplish. And if this temptation strikes at night while I'm trying to sleep I'll distract myself with something I enjoy doing until I'm too tired to want to contact my ex.
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Profile: Power14
Power14 on Jul 5, 2018
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Contacting your Ex lover/Spouse can give you stress.you can think about why they are your "Ex"? . I am sure you will find something that can give you reason to stop. its always good for us to move on in life. if we keep thinking about past ,it will not solve any issue but it will just add emotional pain in our mind.you can save yourself from this pain by not contacting your "Ex". you can distract your mind when you get temptation to contact them again by engaging yourself in something which makes you happy,may be you can talk to your friends ,make yourself busy in any hobby you like.if you keep your brain busy that temptation can go. Best Of Luck
Profile: ComfortingTaylor44
ComfortingTaylor44 on Jul 6, 2018
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You think about how it will turn out if you do. You also think about why you shouldn’t text your ex. You try the best you can to resist temptation.
Profile: generousPrince61
generousPrince61 on Jul 7, 2018
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Seek out social support from friends and family. If you've made the decision not to contact your ex, and if you've decided that you're not right for each other, remind yourself of the reasons for the breakup. Odds are they haven't changed. Work on yourself. Find new activities and explore yourself and the world. The temptation is just that; it's a temporary feeling that will come and go. It's natural and normal to miss someone who used to be a big part of your life. But not contacting your ex helps you heal, and it helps them heal.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 11, 2018
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Why do you want to contact them? Ask yourself this first, is it a good reason or a bad reason to? Resist the urge. Distract yourself. Maybe find a new hobby, or pursue your current hobbies. Do something that takes your mind off them. If you need further help, find support here on 7 Cups.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 14, 2018
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It is important to maintain a healthy and self respecting mindset during and after a relationship. You could set short terms goals that nurture your own physical and emotional health, such as going on a jog if you find yourself thinking negative thoughts.
Profile: StWilson
StWilson on Jul 14, 2018
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Set a goal and stay away from social media. Spend time with your family and friends. Do some sporting activity. and block her.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 15, 2018
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What you need is some "distraction" and some "positivity". It can be done by doing work of any kind that keeps your head busy and should be of your liking . Take my example, I was miserable after my break up and not able to focus on anything and always feeling like contacting her. I tried reading books and some other things also but i was not able to focus properly. By luck you can say, one friend suggested me to go to 7 Cups and have some relief by talking to someone, but instead I joined 7 cups as a listener because I wanted to add some positivity to my life by helping people. As I am a fairly good listener in my real life, I started enjoying the work here and going good. It keeps my head busy and positivity all around. I am saying this because if you are not doing anything, then your mind is not busy and consequently it will wander in those negative thoughts which subsequently increases your propensity to contact your ex. As negative thoughts easily occupies the mind than positive ones, it is pertinent that you add some positivity to your life and come out of such crisis. Positivity can be added by doing anything that you like, it's your choice. So make a good choice and have a great life ahead. Best Wishes.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 15, 2018
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Write down what you want to say to them on a piece of paper. That way you can get out what you wanted to say without actually saying it to them
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 26, 2018
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Delete his contact number! Remove him from social media and think of something that makes you happy that isn't him!
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