How do you deal with the temptation to contact your ex?

First, try to think it through and then to make a decision whether you should/should not get in touch with your ex. 1. Consider the importance of texting him/her. What is it you want to text him/her about? Is it essential for you to talk something through? Is there something you really need to say? 2. Think about how reasonable is it to text your ex. Are you still keeping in touch, did you end up on a good/bad note. If you broke up on a good note it is fine to text him/her, have a casual talk. 3. Try to understand how come is it that you want to text your ex. Do you think about it often cause you feel like you have a lot to say or is it just a spontaneous urge to text him/her? 4. Try to determine your motives behind texting ex. Do you still have feelings and want to get back together, how realistic is this... Or do you just want to simply ask how the other person is doing. Give it a thought, if it is really worth it and justified. Consider all of those points and decide, whether it is worth texting your ex. And remember, as long as it makes/keeps you happy — just do it.

Remind yourself why you brokeup! What role did the ex play in the breakup? If they were emotionally or physically abuse toward you, use those memories as fuel to remain out of contact and move on with your new life.

Remember that exes are always hard to deal with, even if you still love them. Keep in mind why you two broke it off and what is best for both of you. If it will benefit at least one of you if you don't speak, then I'm sorry, but it sounds like it's already been decided.

they're your ex for a reason. remember that. people don't usually change & it's most likely for the best if you don't talk to them or see them anymore. maybe try cutting them off entirely? deleting messages, unfollow & block them, get rid of things that remind you of them etc. at the end of the day, you know yourself best.

To be honest not very well. Many times I still want to be friends, because usually I still care about the person. Unless the split was very ugly, and even then I hope after time we can at least be amicable. Though I find that is hardly the case. So how I deal is "It's called Break-up Because it's Broken." It's a book, it's not going to 100% cure your itch. But it helped me through a couple of breakups. The aftermath of a break up is a tricky thing, if anyone figures it out please let me know!

I keep a list of all the reasons why I broke up with my ex and I make sure to look at it every time I feel the need to contact him.

Just Pause, think about your present, your ex's present , has he / she moved on ? Have you moved on ? Based on that diffuse the temptation

Attempt to make yourself busy with something else completely, be it carpentry, reading, hunting or something else. Whatever gets your attention and 100% of your focus. Eventually, your feelings for your ex will fade.

Avoid reading old conversations or photos and erasing the number also helped me. Personally, I try to distract and focus on myself. Do something that makes you happy, or take care of yourself, learn a new skill or hobby. Break ups are difficult, but they are also a new beginning, enjoy this moment to love who really matters, yourself.

Sometimes I'll think how bad he treated me