How do you deal with the temptation to contact your ex?

I would distract myself from contacting my ex and get over that momentary temptation of feeling to contact my ex

You should think about why the person is your ex and not your actual partner. It is easy to hang on to just the good memories and forget what actually caused the breakup. Remember that it is never good to let an old flame burn twice, and therefore you have to stick to no-contact to avoid hurting yourself again

it's extremely difficult to resist the urge of contacting someone you were once exceptionally fond of. although i believe a good strategy to set in place would be creating and implementing as many diversion tactics as possible. hobbies, recreational activities, realistically anything that can be utilised as a form of enjoyment (provided it's constructive) are great tools to implement when you struggle at times when you miss someone who is absent and is currently no longer in your life. feelings don't just mysteriously vanish overnight. a breakup is an ongoing process. however exercising that restraint and finding other ways throughout those tough times can not only be positive but also quite helpful too!

I block my ex on all social media websites in order to have no way to easily contact them. This also helps to get over them quickly as you are not constantly reminded of them.

First try to talk to someone else. Keep your mind distracted. Go read a book or do something new. Write a letter to them. Say everything you need and want to say. Then put it away or destroy it. Go make friends. Go hangout at a music venue or something and start talking to new people. Go have fun. Walk around or drive while listening to music. Write a story. Write your story. It will be a test. A test of strength. It is ok. Youre gonna do it. If you slip it is ok. Just try to keep your mind occupied by anything but them as hard as that is it can be done.

It is tough you just need to tell yourself you have more self respect then that and arrange to call a friend instead

Think about how you could be more productive and enjoy a hobby, think about what you''ve been through because of the person, It's a closed door, You can be who you and go on

Remember why you broke up in the first place. A ex is a ex for a reason. If you contact him / her your only holding on to them longer there isn't any benefits from your end of things. So remember how things didn't work out and remind yourself you deserve the world and not just a star if u get my saying.

Deleting their contact details rarely works as you'll always find a way to find them. Do this if you want, but make a hard rule that you'll never contact them when you feel vulnerable (e.g. when you've had a drink or in the night when you are alone with your thoughts.) - write the message without filling out the 'too' and then save it. Odds are that you'll think better of it by next lunchtime. Also - replace the gap that the end of the relationship has left, and not necessarily with another relationship. I started volunteering at something that I was good at, and this was a massive confidence boost for me, reducing my emotional dependency on the idea of my ex.

I try to take a step back and think objectively. Does the ex deserve to be contacted? If not sure, I ask friends and family, OR imagine that a friend is in my situation. Now, I wouldn't want her to make a mistake, would I? So the same goes for me. It is also helpful if I cut off all contact with an ex, so I literally stop myself from being exposed to him.