How do you break out of unhealthy patterns and find ways to enjoy the good things in your relationship?

Try to talk to your partner and identify exactly what it is that you both have issues with and attempt to compromise with them to resolve them. Giving the extra effort to compliment your partner can let them know that they are appreciated and they will do the same in return. Giving your partner a boost in confidence will help them as well as yourself in a relationship. I hope this has helped, all the best in your relationship, Ben.

I just talk with friends because two of them are like my sisters. Soledad and Gabriela share many of my hobbies and likes. Some of my few hobbies are playing volleyball, cooking and listening different kinds of music such as Folkloric, Rock, Pop, Classical and especially Latin Music like salsa and Merengue. They also enjoy this kind of music and we have fun all the time at my place.

Just take a break for a few moments and think about what you could change. Whilst also looking at these patterns in someone elses point of view. Then decide why you should/would like to change these patterns, and how you could go about it.

Its all you. You are responsible for your own happiness or sadness. Don't let or allow anyone else especially people who do not deserve it to be responsible for your happiness.

Baby steps are the key. One by one kick those bad habits by replacing them good habits until there is nothing but good and positive things in your relationship.