How do you break out of unhealthy patterns and find ways to enjoy the good things in your relationship?

try to find and notice little things that they are doing, and appreciate what is positive in the relationship. try to not get back into your usual negative response to something in a relationship, and most importantly make sure you have respect, trust, and good, healthy communication so things can be fixed easily

A relationship is about having fun and excitement! Try not to constantly revolve around the negative or unhealthy patterns by trying something new together.

The first thing to do is to learn how to recognize your unhealthy behaviors as they occur. For example, if you find that you're often quick to anger, recognizing when your emotions are getting the best of you can be the first step to preventing an angry outburst.

As I am learning, it is important to first admit that one is on a unhealthy pattern. Once that is out of the way and it has been identified, the work of breaking from it gets a littlw less intimidating. Most of the time change is a hard pill to swallow. So to do a turnaround and break a pattern or an old habit one needs to be patient with themselves and take baby steps towards change. Weigh the consequences of the unhealthy pattern and compare it to how much life could be easier if you choose to break it. Write down the benefits of breaking them. Remind yourself that at the end of the day it is the little that matters in a relationship. Its what adds up.

Show gratitude for the good things you have in the relationship, and in each other, and stop picking out the bad.

Breaking out of patterns takes time and hard work. It's about deciding what you want, and making decisions on how to do it. Focusing on the positive aspects of your relationship is a good start, and using communication to convey your needs and wants, can help a lot.

The first step, I would think, is recognizing the unhealthy pattern and making a conscious effort to change it or at least recognize it. From there, it makes sense that you would modify the behaviors that that lead to the unhealthy patterns .

It would probably be best if you sought out a counselor or therapist and outline your concerns. Sometimes a medical professional can be more helpful than just assessing yourself.

Make a list of things you are grateful for in the other person and then give them the list when they least expect it.

Focus on the positive aspects of the relationship and try to figure out how to keep that going. Work together with your significant other and support each other!