How do you begin to trust again after being cheated on or lied to?

While it's tough to trust anyone again after being deceived, it's important to remember that not everyone is the same. While that person was unworthy of your trust and took advantage of it, there are others who will respect and honor your trust in them. Also, it's important to remember that their untrustworthiness has nothing to do with you or your value. If they lied or cheated on you, they can and probably will do the same to someone else. Understanding that it's on them and not you should be the first step to beginning to let your guard down and trust again.

I feel like more information is needed but we'll assume the question is how do you trust other people after being cheated on. Being cheated can be very hurtful, it's only natural that it would be difficult to trust again. Maybe you're afraid to put your heart on the line again only to be hurt. That's scary. But if it's a new person, you need to remind yourself it's a new person. They deserve a chance if they're not the ones that have hurt you. You're with them because hopefully you see something good in them. Give them a chance to show you they are different. Talk to them about how you're feeling and why you have concerns. Help them understand how they can eliminate some of your fears and anxieties. Communicate.

you find someone who shows you there are is good still out there, they will stick by you. or do what I do, and stop caring

I would never trust someone after a big lie or a cheat. You never know how long it's been going on. Or if it will continue.

You take time to be alone. Not isolated, but alone. You learn to be honest with yourself, trust yourself, and keep yourself in good company so that that way you won't be vulnerable in your next relationship.

It's definitely difficult to trust again after something like that, but with time and just having a little bit of a guard up, you'll be able to tell who is worth your time and when you should walk away.

Take small steps,be friends but guard your heart and always remember that not everyone is the same!!

The trick is to forget it happened. Each person is different and not everyone will break your trust.

There's no right answer to this, nor will there ever be. True healing come at your own pace and on your own terms. Appreciate the small victories and build from there. Open communication with all involved won't necessarily speed up the process, but it will make learning to trust and feeling secure easier. Finally, remember to keep your relationship just that---yours. If the special qualities that made you feel comfortable can still be found, build on them as well. Good luck and greater healing.

If you have been lied to or cheated on first try to understand or ask them why they did it. It may take time but you have to work on the small things. Trust them with like asking them to walk your dog or something. Build up that trust again and forgive the person.