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How do I tell my boyfriend that I don't want to be with him? (anymore)

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 29, 2020
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People change and so does their heart. Your relationship may not have turned out the way you wanted it to be. And it is absolutely normal. Be direct and tell him the truth. Don't beat around the bush. Making excuses and lying would hurt both of you. When breaking up, Do it peacefully. Be prepared for any kind of reaction. And most importantly you don't have to explain yourself. Don't think about what he will think or feel. Just be honest.
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Profile: brilliantHeart3714
brilliantHeart3714 on Aug 29, 2020
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You must have reasons as to why you don't want to be with him? So tell him those reasons be honest with him there's no point in treating someone badly or ghosting someone because you can't deal with facing someone and telling them why. Treat people with the same respect as you wish to be treated. It will help them move on to their next relationship easier without feeling like they don't understand as to what went wrong. There was no point in treating people Cruelty so honesty is the best policy, and it saves lines being crossed after which is uncomfortable for both parties.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 30, 2020
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Make sure he knows not everything is your fault! Be completely honest with him and try and say things in the least hurtful ways possible. Explain to him that things are just not working out and it's just the time. Also, from personal experience I believe you should talk to him about it in real life, instead of over text (If you are able to), as sometimes online break ups can be quite worse than talking it out in person. Possibly refrain from bringing up any memories of you guys as that might make it harder for them to get around the idea of you breaking up with them, best of luck
Profile: BeCalm
BeCalm on Sep 9, 2020
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Be honest about you feelings however still respecting his. Appreciate what he did for you and respectfully and honestly tell him. Relationship end all the time but breaking a heart is delicate and must be treated with respect. You may not want to breakup while making the other person feel like you take him for granted. It is have to find decent people we can connect to these days and this is someone you once love and for whatever reason if the relationship needs to end it is understandable as you what him and yourself to be both happy while in a relationship.
Profile: Ran3707
Ran3707 on Sep 20, 2020
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You might talk about what is healthy for you in terms of your desires and aspirations. You might talk about your activities in this direction to show that you are creating movement in that direction. Then you can talk about the support you need to continue on this path. Finally, you can indicate that it is your certain will to continue to follow your desires and aspirations. You could then indicate that your boyfriend can support you in this or not. If you desire, you can say that you do not see how he can support you in this and that you are going elsewhere to continue your activities.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 30, 2020
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Well, you can be honest about why and when you began to feel this way. That way, you have a reason when he comes with questions. If he truly loves you, he will understand your reasoning and be mature about it. Have a mature conversation with him and be ready for backlash if it happens. The main thing I would say is do not go about from an angry or mad point of view. That will just make things worse. It should be a peaceful conversation. Know that your feelings are valid, and don't let anyone tell you any different.
Profile: KuroUsagi3038
KuroUsagi3038 on Oct 6, 2020
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In my experience people have an easier time accepting bad news or even rejection if they can understand and relate to the reasons and intentions behind it. If you don't want to be with him you should tactfully and considerately communicate to him why you think it would be a bad idea to continue the relationship. Most cases values do not align and I find that if you make it clear that you are not on the same page and you cannot and will not(because of your personal values) do anything to change that; they should respect that you have made a personal decision.
Profile: lruss09
lruss09 on Oct 11, 2020
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It depends on why you don't want to be with them. Typically, you should always be honest with your significant other. The truth hurts sometimes. However, sometimes it is best to not get into detail with why you want to break up. I had an ex girlfriend who I fell out of love with because of her personality. She had been broken up with before because of her personality, so another break up because of this would make her feel unlovable. So I just said I need time to focus on myself so she wouldn't beat herself up about it. So you don't always have to give your one hundred percent thoughts, but don't leave them with no explanation.
Profile: caringFriend10
caringFriend10 on Oct 15, 2020
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Its important to be honest and straight up out of respect to him and the relationship you guys are in. You should definitely try to sit and talk it out as calmly as possible with the hopes that he understands. Although he most likely will be upset, he will get over it and will be happy that he isn't holding you back from being with someone who truly makes you happy. In the moment it will be difficult, however at the end of the day, you both will end up finding the right person. I recommend starting the conversation when he is in a good mood and is calm. Begin by saying how much you have appreciated your time together and try to lean into explaining the reason why you do not want to be with him anymore.
Profile: cuteOrange213
cuteOrange213 on Oct 17, 2020
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Firstly, it depends on how is your relationship with your boyfriend. If you have an okay relationship with him, I think it would be best if you sit down and have the hard discussions. I know it is going to be hard, but I think if you both respect each other, I think it will fine. I think you should figure out exactly how, what and when you are going to break the news to him. And if your relationship with your boyfriend isn't that good, maybe you could find a neutral setting to break the news to him. Make sure your safety is priority.
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