How do I tell my boyfriend I'm not happy?
Anonymous
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May 1, 2019
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Be honest and say it nicely. Tell him why you’re not happy and come up with solutions on how to solve your reason why your not happy together. Also ask him if he’s happy. And make sure to address those issues too. Be very trusting and communicate with him. If there’s something you don’t like tell him. If there’s someone you don’t like tell him it will make him trust you more and it will built your relationship. Always trust your partner. If you see that you are losing trust address it right away because it’s very important I’m a relationship
calmYellow2554
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Jun 12, 2019
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before you tell him think about what has made you unhappy and prepare yourself how he will react. Meet him face to face so you can see his reactions when you tell him, make sure it is in a place you are comfortable to be open to him. Communication is always a key in a relationship. Once you tell him listen to what he has to say openly. He may be upset about what you've said but you need to keep in mind that you have feelings about how he has made you feel and your feelings deserve to be acknowledged.
Anonymous
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Jun 22, 2019
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Letting someone know your feelings is tough. They might be just as confused or unhappy about the situation as you are so it’s important to pick a comfortable time and place to have a discussion as to why you are feeling this way. It might not be just a straight out I’m not happy because that can leave your significant other overwhelmed and can bring out some reactions or emotions that aren’t beneficial to the situation. It’s shouldn’t be a time to blame but to just respectfully converse about all aspects of what is causing you to be unhappy. Once you are ready at a stage where you feel safe you should let them know how you feel.
StrawberryJamm
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Jul 7, 2019
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It is inevitable that we will experience some unhappiness in relationships, being hurt or disappointed is a natural part of being human. The most loving way to express this is to do so vulnerably. Avoid criticising anything that he does or saying anything about him, as this may cause him to try to defend himself or his behaviour. Instead, always use statements beginning with the word "I" to openly share how YOU feel about an aspect of the relationship. You can never go wrong expressing how you feel, because when our partners tell us genuinely that they are unhappy, we have a natural striving to satisfy them, because we love them.
Hanaa00
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Jul 11, 2019
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This is something I have struggled with for a very long time. In the end, the relationship completely fell apart just because there was a lack of communication, I didn’t know how to communicate those feelings to him, because I feared he wouldn’t understand. I think it’s important that you do let your boyfriend know that you’re unhappy, and not just imply it, but communicate it loud and clear. Even if he doesn’t understand or is confused about it, you know that you have expressed yourself and have been open with the way you’re feeling. That is always a key to everything in a relationship- communication.
Anonymous
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Jul 17, 2019
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Simply by saying it. Try to open a conversation without trying to accuse him or put any guilt on either of you. Try to have an honest conversations about how you feel and how you would like to work together on this. Don't try to just give subtle hints, they might not catch on and will leave you both frustrated.
If you feel talking isn't as easy, try to prepare by talking to some friends or family first. Don't be afraid, if you're in a loving relationship this there should be room for this and only make your relationship stronger.
You can do it!
waterkid1024
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Aug 2, 2019
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this can be hard, especially if it's hard to describe what's making you unhappy. the first thing is: there should be no pressure for you to be happy if your needs aren't being met. you don't need to adjust your standards!
I would take a couple steps to make sure you're both in a conversational space that's relaxed, uninterrupted, and sincere. It can also help to make a list of things you need to talk about. It could be as simple as a list of your needs that are not being met. Be open to their response, but also make sure that you are being validated, heard, and taken seriously. I don't think it's possible to hurt someone by telling them that you have needs that are not being met. it's your responsibility to meet those needs, not theirs, and having an honest conversation like this one is a good, proactive way to look out for your self!
Anonymous
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Aug 3, 2019
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Tell him that you need to talk to him privately. And let him know how you are feeling, if it’s the relationship itself that you are unhappy with, let him know, or on the flip side, if it’s him that makes you unhappy, let him know. If you tell him in a manner that’s explaining and not blaming that’s a good way to tell him your feelings and thoughts. Good communication is key to be in a relationship that you want to be in. Also if he has concerns let him talk as well. When you talk to him, let him wait till you are completely done telling him how you feel.
Bright22
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Aug 10, 2019
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Telling someone how you feel isn't so easy ,because it all comes with a reaction. How people react will also determine ,whether we feel better or not. So its important to have in mind that the conversation may go either way. Its however also important that you have good intentions before telling your boyfriend how you feel,do you want him to feel guilty about something or do you genuinely just want support from him. Sometimes going without expectations is safe ,as you are open to any reaction.
Going back to the question, the best way to tell him is in a calm manner ,clearly explaining to him why you feel unhappy and also explaining to him why you are telling him ( What you hope to achieve through the conversation) about your feelings . Try not to argue and be calm throughout the conversation ,say what you feel and allow him to share whatever he needs to. Validate each others emotions ,try not to justify too much ,as that leads to misunderstandings.
^-^
Anonymous
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Sep 11, 2019
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just be straight up. honesty is the best policy. they will probably want to talk about it all so figure out what it is that has made you not happy and help them to understand. If you are wanting to break up with them then make sure not to put any blame on them and just apologise. Its nobodies fault this has happened, it just has. just be gentle and keep the conversation calm and civil. it will be a lot easier that way to be able to talk together about it properly. As this is very important. they will thank you for being honest in the long run. and you will also be glad for being honest
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