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How do I tell my boyfriend I'm not happy?

Profile: allnaturalUnicorns70
allnaturalUnicorns70 on Aug 2, 2017
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Being straight and honest with someone in a careful and measured way is usually the way to go. if you mean that you expect him to do something to make you happy, being clear about what you want is probably the way to go. If you mean you want to end it, being compassionate and clear about your intentions will make for an easier transition for all!
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 9, 2017
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You can just directly stay up and say to him that you are not happy. Hiding it will cause more problems. Truth may be harsh but it's always the right way.
Profile: beautifuldevil
beautifuldevil on Sep 16, 2017
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I think in this case you should just be honest. Strong relationships are built on mutual trust and communication. Your boyfriend will appreciate your openness and you can work together to solve the problem.
Profile: endearingVoice84
endearingVoice84 on Oct 11, 2017
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You do just that, you sit him down and you tell him. I suggest you do it in person because over the phone absolutely sucks. Now, telling your boyfriend you're not happy doesn't mean you need to break up. Tell him exactly what's making you unhappy and see if there's any way you two can overcome the problems and just be open. Too many times have I made the mistake of hiding my feelings and the relationship crashed and burned. Be open and maybe a solution will arise. If you do want to break up, don't sugar coat it, let him know that it's completely over and don't lead him on. Yes, it will hurt him. And yes, you will be so nervous. But you need to put your happiness and your future first, and if he isn't going to be part of it, you need to let him go.
Profile: SweetRainStorm
SweetRainStorm on Nov 4, 2017
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It really depends on what exactly you are unhappy about. Finding out exactly what is causing you to be unhappy is the first step. Once the root cause of the feelings can lead you to the solutions you are looking for. If it's being caused by the relationship then, looking inwards and outwards to help yourself find the words you need to describe to your partner what is going on and whether or not you want to invest in continuing the relationship. Try not to come out with the typical "We need to talk" line, it can cause someone to be anxious and fear the worst. Try a simpler approach of reaching out with "I'm not feeling happy lately..." then continue with what you have to say.
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Anonymous on Nov 9, 2017
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Never hold off on the truth, just tell him! Start of by saying that you guys would be better off as friends and see where it goes.
Profile: gentlelambslave
gentlelambslave on Nov 10, 2017
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Just be open and honest if he loves you things will get better if your ment to be together. If it just because your feeling down not anything to do with the relationship just tell him it shouls bring you guys together.
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Anonymous on Nov 10, 2017
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Talk to him directly.No point in keeping things within you.It will only effect you.I am sure he will understand you.
Profile: Bosque
Bosque on Nov 11, 2017
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Communication is the most important thing when you are in a relationship with someone. Tell him you would like to talk about something important, and find a moment where both of you are relaxed (after eating, for instance) and be as honest as you can, putting yourself in his shoes at the same time.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 22, 2017
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Be straight with him. Tell him face to face, explain why. This is because honesty is the best policy.
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