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How do I stop myself from thinking of my ex-significant other when I see things that remind me of them?

Profile: Ashe22
Ashe22 on Jul 7, 2015
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There's no real way, but just because you miss someone doesn't mean you should go back, sometimes you have to keep missing them until you wake up one day and realize that you don't miss them anymore
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Profile: SheKnowsHope
SheKnowsHope on Mar 21, 2015
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The truth is no matter how over your ex you are, if you see something that reminds you of them, you will think of them. And that is okay. If you aren't over them and it bothers you, just remember what was, is now over and in this new chapter of your life, to refocus on yourself and your happiness.
Profile: Vronica23
Vronica23 on Nov 13, 2017
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Moving on from a past relationship is always difficult. That person was a huge part of your life for however long it may have been, and adjusting to life without them in the picture isn't going to happen over night. My suggestion is take those things that remind you of your ex and replace them with new memories. Branch out, get to know yourself again, and make new memories without them in the picture. This is easier said than done, I know. And it will take time, no doubt. But you'll see that as you work on reconnecting with your self, all the constant reminders of your ex will fade. Maybe they won't be gone completely, but they will becoming lessons, and stories instead of constant reminders filled with dread.
Profile: Moonartisan
Moonartisan on May 28, 2018
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I don't deny the pain/memories/thoughts, I accept them and validate my emotions. I then fill myself and those painful memories or thoughts with self love and the love of those who care about me. With time, with acceptance the things that remind, the songs, ect. stop hurting because I chose to face them.
Profile: karenina1191
karenina1191 on Dec 29, 2015
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It is completely natural to be reminded of your ex . And it might not be such a bad thing. Remember the lessons you learned and happy memories. If forgetting is what you want to do, then keeping busy is the best solution. Brush off unhappy thoughts. Just will yourself to redirect your thoughts. Tell yourself "Im trying not to think of a pink elephant".
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 16, 2015
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This is always tough but you can get past it! Instead of letting things remind you of your ex, relate them to something different! Think about what you're doing at that moment.
Profile: hopefulWinter65
hopefulWinter65 on May 17, 2015
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Keep it away or throw it if possible. And find another way of distractingg your mind by doing something that you love
Profile: Haboo
Haboo on Jul 13, 2020
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What are the circumstances of separation? Was it a breakup? Then you just have to give it some time. You will not stop thinking about them until you have moved past them as a whole. You can speed up this process by venting and talking to people, spending more time with other people in your social life, maybe even going on quick dates (though I would really caution against investing in a new relationship if you're still thinking about your ex). Are you mourning? Then the answer is that the grief will never truly go away. And that is a very painful healing process; grief is like a scar, something that will never truly pass with time, but just something that one day won't leave you doubled over in pain. I wish you luck on your journey. Time heals all wounds.
Profile: Potter13
Potter13 on Feb 18, 2015
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We can't erase things from our memory. It will make you think of them and it might hurt but with time it will get better. Right now it might give you pain when you see your triggers. In a month or so it might just bring back happy memories that you look over. Only time can make it better
Profile: Flags
Flags on May 17, 2015
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Actually, you won't be able to help yourself from thinking about your ex-significant other when you see things that remind you them. I believe this is the reason why some sites advise you to return gifts given to you by them or just merely throw them out. If you want to stop yourself from thinking about your past loves, you must simply take all the things that reminds them of you away. Simple but complicated, yes.
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