How do I stop myself from texting him?
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Moderated by Joe Nelson, Licensed Clinical Social Worker Doctor of Social Work
Updated: May 6, 2020
TeaWithAFriend
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Nov 17, 2014
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Wait 24 hours before you hit send. If your experience is anything like mine, you'll be glad you didn't hit send the next day. Instead of texting, consider writing an email. Don't send it though for 24 hours though!!! In my experience, a text or any kind of communication sent in haste has been a (sometimes huge) mistake but I was never unhappy with my decision NOT to send something after I'd waited 24 hours. I've kept a lot of the emails I didn't send and some are downright comical after a few years have passed and, at the same time, painful to read. When I was younger, I was desperate to keep people in my life who I later would realize were not worth the time and effort. Nowadays I focus on doing things that make me happy instead of hanging on to people who clearly didn't hold me in as high a priority as I held them. Self-forgiveness is key.
keely0
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Jan 9, 2016
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one thing i learned to do is, instead of texting him directly, keep a journal and write to him as you would be speaking to him.
peacefulNutella97
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Dec 13, 2015
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Close your eyes, take a deep breath in, and remind yourself that YOU DESERVE MORE. Texting him would make you feel better in the moment, but long term it is only going to hurt you and keep you from moving on. It is the moments when you put down your phone and remember how amazing and awesome you are that help you grow into a better person. You want to stop texting him for a reason, remember that reason and dont give in. Yeah, it is hard, but it will make you strong. Or, delete his number and past conversations so you physically cannot text him again.
insightfulTruth93
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Dec 13, 2015
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think about the THE VALUE YOU GIVE TO YOURSELF.....Don’t tell yourself that you’re powerless over this. By saying “how do I stop myself†from texting him – you’re acting like you’re powerless to the urge to text him..You just don’t text him. That’s it. Each time you want to pick up the phone text a nice one to your parents or a close friend..start a conversation with others who cherish you..Our mind is the most powerful thing in the world. Mind over matter, as what they say. Keep on thinking that you should NOT text him. When you feel the urge, use your mind to think about other things. It’s all about having the right mindset...
Anonymous
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Apr 15, 2016
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Understand that you cannot make someone care for you who just doesnt. You should try and have some self respect :)
Anonymous
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Dec 19, 2015
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don't stop. why stop? just go to the end and see what that's like. otherwise you won't stop texting him and your future ex's.
Anonymous
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Jan 20, 2016
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When the anxiety of texting him starts, you should remember the bad things he did to you, for you to stop. Also think he does not text yyou.. so why should you?
Righthere321
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Jan 21, 2016
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Keep busy! Keep active! He is not worth your text. Remind yourself why you shouldnt text him. You may miss him now, but time will pass and it will get easier. Someone much more deserving for that text you want to send right now, is just around the corner. Turn the page, that chapter of him is done. Do not text him.
Anonymous
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Apr 4, 2015
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Build up your self control. Delete his number if you have to. I'm sure you remember it by heart but everytime you feel like texting him, recollect why you stopped in the first place.
AnnieAndie
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Jan 16, 2016
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Stop. Breathe. Put the phone down and count to 100. If you still feel like texting him after, walk away from the phone and do something productive. Draw, read a book...anything to get your mind off of him.
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