How do I stop missing my ex?

That's not a cut and dry answer. First of all, it's normal and natural to miss someone we care about - we have to be gentle with ourselves and realize that we're not bad for missing our ex - even if they hurt us. Often times we focus only on the good times - or when we were first in love - we also need to remember that there were hard times too. It helps to acknowledge this as well. One of the proven steps is working to think about the person less. This can be done through a process called thought stopping. When we think of the person, we say out loud, "Stop" and then have a list of other things we would rather think about. We actively begin to think about those things. Also, it helps to begin to get in touch with our dreams again. Those dreams that are uniquely ours and for ourselves. A very good book for break ups is called "It's called a Break-up because it's broken" it's actually a very loving book and teaches us techniques to move on and think of ourselves in empowered terms. It's written primary for women, but men can use it too. I know - I used it to help me in my last breakup. Helped a lot.

You start doing more for yourself and surrounding yourself in things that make you happy. You start working harder in achieving your goals and you use your ex as a newfound drive to improve your life. In your free time, you watch or read something totally different than anything you've seen before to immerse yourself and drown out thoughts of your ex, or you travel to someplace totally new so that you can fill yourself with new memories and cleanse out the bad ones. You earn more and you spend more, or you work more and you care for yourself even more. This is going to stress you out a lot and every little thing can remind you of your ex.. Until day by day, you start seeing everything as what they really are, and not connecting them to your ex. You start recognizing important and beautiful you are, you start realizing that some people actually care for you, you start realizing that your ex is an ex, someone who has simply helped you become a better person, nothing more than that. And before you know it, you're ready for a new adventure.. maybe you'll even find someone new on that adventure, someone who'll be with you forever.

It will definitely take some time to stop missing someone. Continue to take it one day at a time and keep yourself busy. Talk about your feelings with people you trust. It is better to talk about it than to keep it bottled up. Do something for yourself. Stay positive and be strong. Things will hopefully get better as time goes on. Everyone deals with breakups differently so don't compare yourself to other people. It might take you longer or shorter to get over this breakup, but you know yourself the best. Do what feels right to you. Take as much time as you need to get over that person.

It sounds like you might be feeling lonely, or at sea with a big change like this in your life. I would feel the same. In fact, I was divorced and can understand what you might be going through. Reaching out like you have to 7 cups is a courageous step. It shows me you are strong and able to seek solutions without fear. That is an amazing quality and shows that you are very ready to move to the next phase of your life. Can you tell me what would you say to a dear friend who asked you this question?

Time does heal all wounds but some steps I have personally done when I have recovered from relationships included journaling, time with my friends, volunteering, engaging in hobbies that I may have let go while we were dating. Additionally, pampering sessions such as a new hair style, pedicure and maybe even a piercing! Also, there is nothing like blaring some music and dancing around. In short, stay busy and do what you love! Know that it is okay if you think about them from time to time and know you will never forget them. Now is the time to put yourself back in the driver seat of your life and make yourself the priority.

It is normal for you to miss your ex. When someone who has been so close to you leaves, it hurts and it feels impossible to fill that void. When we miss someone, we often tend to go back to them but what we have to understand is that, going back to them would not solve anything for us since the reason why you feel these negative emotions is because of the relationship you were in. The relationship would have worked out if it was meant to be. Missing your ex is normal but what is important is how you react to it. First of all, remind yourself the reasons as to why you are not with your ex, then you could find other alternatives, such as going out with friends, spending time with family, binge watching your favourite series, ordering your favourite food. Soon you will be distracted and the moment would pass.

There are so many ways How you can stop missing your ex but it all comes down to what you do. First off do not contact him/her for at least 30 days, If you do contact him/her it can infer with the healing process. 2nd off Is it really him/her your missing? or do you miss the attention, the love, etc? Focus on yourself and stay busy, go for a walk, do something with family or friends, play with your pets, etc. Give it time It feels like the end of the world right now, and maybe it feels like you’ll be this miserable forever, but negative emotions just have a way of warping our sense of reality. It won’t last forever. You will come out of this. But nothing is going to happen today.

Remember that there many people out there that will treat you better and that anything that happened is all in the past. You deserve to be treated as the gem you are and if they left its their loss. always remember to take every relationship that didnt work out as a lesson, not another reason to beat yourself up about. we're all still learning to love and its okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from them and grow to be a better version of yourself. take care of you and always remember that love didnt hurt you, someone that didnt know how to love you did hurt you.

Begin by recognizing that the time with them represents a special and significant portion of your life and is thus a part of your personal history. That relationship has ended and memories both good and bad will begin to fade. You need to decide how you want to remember them in a Brief but meaningful manner for quick consistent recall to try and form what will be what you think of and then quickly let go at times you are missing them. All of that is part one of my suggestion. Part two is to regroup and focus on who you are and decide where you want to go next. Did you change during that relationship? If so, was it a change that is healthy for you, do you like or respect the you you became during that relationship? If so then this shouldn’t be more than a matter of time and you just need to keep living your life to the fullest remembering that that is your primary purpose, a debt you owe yourself. If not, then use that as your initial focus or purpose and either aim to find the person you used to be and loved, or return to that pre-changed version of you and then pick back up with actively living your life for you...that primary purpose. (Note, that is not to say it needs to be about fulfilling selfish or self-focused needs, it only means that you do need to be a priority for yourself, but in living that way, it can take shape in any number of ways, like helping others, teaching others, coaching others, whatever makes you feel most alive and your best version of a human being.). Good luck.

I think it’s less a matter of how to stop missing your ex, and more a matter of being okay with missing them. You loved someone and they are no longer a part of your life. Missing them is natural. It means you cared. Acknowledge the loss and what it means to you. Allow yourself to feel what you feel and know that, no matter how overwhelming it may seem, you can handle it, even if that means taking it one minute at a time. The more you tell yourself you shouldn’t feel the loss of miss your ex, the worse it will feel; you’re adding shame on top of the hurt you’re already experiencing. There are ways to cope with the feelings of loss and desire for connection. Maybe you can find ways to connect with others, or yourself.