Mymy123
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Oct 25, 2018
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Getting over your ex is really hard. There isn't one solution that helps solve the problem. However, time always helps heal wounds. You can always try filling the void of your ex with someone new. It doesn't necessarily have to be another SO,it could just be a friend or new hobby. The best thing to do is not to think of your ex. You need to make it clear you are are done with the relationship. That means not being friends with them, you need to cut ties in my personal experience. It is hard but it does get easier.
LondonEars5
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Nov 2, 2018
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Missing an ex is dreadful. It is really the hardest thing ever if he left you. If you truly love the person you cannot just switch off your feelings. It is probably best to plan to do things with friends to keep yourself distracted. Sometimes you will indeed need to grieve as it is like loosing a person from your world. To be consumed with sadness can actually need professional counselling to support the journey. Depending on the nature of the breakup it can go on for months even years in some cases. If there are children involved it can be worse as the person will have left you however will still constantly hold a place in your life forever. New hobbies. Learn a new skill as in crafts or baking or language. Book things to look forward to. Be kind to yourself and know that you are enough while you nurse your broken heart.
Fernweh89
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Nov 11, 2018
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You don't. You let yourself miss them. And you let yourself feel everything you need to feel. Eventually it won't hurt as badly, and one day it will cease to hurt at all. It won't be easy and it won't be fun. but it will happen. Nothing stays the same forever, and luckily that includes the bad parts. It will hurt, but this is a necessary part of the process. Hopefully you will also learn from them. Take the good, and make note of the things you want and don't want in your next partner. Believe me, it will be okay.
learningtolive365
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Nov 15, 2018
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Keep yourself busy and try to be around people you feel safe around and can trustThe fisrt few days of my breakup, I thought that isolating myself would heal me faster, But it only gave me more reasons to think about the past.Then after a couple of days, I got out of my cocoon, Started focusing of my life and make sure I was as bust as a possibly could be so that I didnt even give an opportunity to myself to go down that hole.On saying that it is never easy to stop those feeling afterall you ex was an important part of your life at some point so dont force yourself you stop those feelings and let them come naturally
Anonymous
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Jan 2, 2019
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What you are feeling is very common when people break up. Some people try to take comfort in their friends or other relations. They try to talk about the situation with someone else in order to try and understand things better. This can help the way that you feel and can also help you see future opportunities. For example, although you still miss your ex there could be someone out there that makes you feel ways that your ex did not.
Another common thing people do is to try to pick up a new hobby. This can help because it distracts your mind from thinking about your ex
StarrySunset29
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Jan 30, 2019
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Make sure you allow yourself time if need be to grieve the relationship. Really wallow in your feelings without guilt. When that time is up though get yourself showered and ready for the day and engage yourself in any activity you can that brings you joy and makes you a happier, better person. Whether it be drawing or spending time with friends or family at least for that time you are self-soothing and supporting your journey to recovery. The pain will fade and the distractions will not only make you forget for small moments, but those moments of distraction will increase until you haven't thought of your ex all day. It gets easier each day.
llola3
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Feb 7, 2019
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this is a situation i have had a lot of experience on recently.
missing your ex is a sigh that you are not ready to let him go and you do not, yet, have complete closure on the relationship.
you know yourself your ex and the whole situation way better than my understanding can go so this is just things that have helped me in the past couple of months,
try reaching out to him and let him know that you want to remain friends, that way you will still have him in your life and there won’t be a need to ‘miss him’
surround yourself with people and activities that keep your mind active and keep you from thinking of him before you know it he will be in the back of your head
Anonymous
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Feb 8, 2019
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I like to work with images. So I would embrace the feeling, recognize that is there, try to visualize it and look at it as if it doesn't belong to me. We're not what we think. Then, concentrate on what you're doing in that very moment. For example, are you driving? Feel the steering wheel. Is it cold? Look outside. Which colours are the cars you're seeing? How many trees are there? Try to be present in whatever it is that you're doing, it will help you leaving out every other thought, even those about "I miss him/her".
Anonymous
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Mar 16, 2019
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To get over your ex, you first need to move forward from that chapter of your life. You should realize that it is okay to be okay to move on. This can only happen when you are ready. If you are not ready, it may seem like you are in a tight spot, because you may want a new relationship, etc. But, until you feel it in your heart that it is time to move on, then you will. If you feel that day will never come it slowly but surely will. You will go from thinking of them everyday, to it being only a distant memory.
browneyedbrontide
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Mar 22, 2019
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In the past, the way that I've been able to get over things that I'm finding are really difficult to get past, I try to look forward to things that I know are going to heal up my soul. Like the fuzzy dog I'm going to have when I'm older and the apartment I'm going to buy all on my own. The places I'm going to visit, the amazing people I'm going to meet. The foods I'm going to try and the nights I'll laugh so hard I'll cry. Perspective, I think, has helped me get over things and people.
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