How do I start to live a life without the person I can't live without?

It definitely isn't easy. It starts with you. It starts with focusing on yourself and being independent. Being independent and doing things on your own is key. It isn't easy to move from someone you can't live without, but at the same time, you can't wait for that person to continue to live your life. You just have to keep on going and take everything day by day. At the end of the day, you can't let the person who is no longer in your life control your future as that will not do anything positive for you. It will only bring you down.

First of all, you need to accept the fact that the person isn't in your life anymore. Acceptance is the first step in moving forward. Once you accept the fact that the person isn't there anymore, you will learn to stop being dependent on that person. Automatically, you will slowly live or start to live a life without the presence of that person. That person won't be required at every need and call of yours. You will be self sufficient and completely dependent upon yourself to fulfil your needs and look after yourself. You'll stop craving and missing and wanting to look for that person in your life.

Earlier this year, I lost my husband, the love of my life. It is hard to build a new life when such a big part is suddenly missing. It took me a while to dig out from the numbness and grief, and to find something that would help me look to a different future. It was artwork that helped me see I could exercise control over my surroundings and choose what emotions to surround myself with. Something as simple as changing what picture I have on the wall in the room where I spend most of my time made more difference that I would have thought. It was a first step towards designing a new life. Helping others is a great help in shifting focus away from my own loss.

Find the things in the world that are yours, that you are interested in, that you value the most. And by doing so, you'll find yourself. Your dreams and wishes and talents and values are worth something. You are a strong and valuable individual! You are the one behind the wheel! You don't have to be good at things, you don't need to be successful in things - the most important thing is, what brings you joy by doing it. The rest will follow. Go focus on you as a wonderful, talented and feeling person who has love, energy, experiences and values that are worthy!

By waking up each day and reminding yourself that you are the reason you wake up everyday. The things you do are for you. One day you will be able to look back and see that this was a tough time in your life, but you will have made it through because you are strong. We can live without people, it can be painful and emotionally draining, but we can do it. Surround yourself with people who love and support you for being yourself and eventually you won't notice that person is missing. Wether they moved or were lost forever, you can and will live without them. If you put faith in yourself and you can achieve anything.

You have to take one step at a time and accept that you are without the person, talk to someone about it, get your emotions out and know that better days are on their way. Try go outside, read and spend time with your loved ones. Try looking at it as everything happens for a reason and don’t blame yourself for it. Take care of yourself. I know you’re going to get through this. I believe in you and I’m so proud of how far you have come. You are the only one who can change it, take this as a lesson to move on and learn