How do I move on after my 20 year marriage with 4 Kids?.

This can be difficult, understandably given the situation. Firstly - allow yourself to feel all the emotions as they come. It’s so important as it’s part of the process. Secondly - time! You won’t suddenly move on, it happens gradually! And I think thirdly - try to twist it into a positive drive. Look at this as an opportunity to discover yourself again. After 20 years, your used to being around that one person a lot we forget what it’s like to be by ourselves. Take the time to learn to just be you again, learn a hobby, do the things you love or find something new!

Life can be like a roller coaster, with ups and downs, but know that you're not going to feel bad forever, and remember to do what you want and what you think would benift you the most. Think about how you want to live your life and why you did what you did. Go from there. Do whatever you feel like. Buy a minivan, rent a trampoline, do whatever you want. Don't feel like you are locked down and don't feel like you can't talk to people about it. Reach out and make sure that your mental health isn't suffering.

When a story ends, it is indeed very hard. Reasons why a story ends vary. But one thing remains, and that is that it needs a new beginning. Certainly, it is not what you picture because most don't get married while waiting it to end, but rather wish it is to be forever. When things don't last forever, the new beginning is what comes next... What would be the second case scenario if a marriage doesn't work? only you can answer that for yourself. Maybe it's self-love, spending even more time with your kids, meeting again with some old friends and meeting new ones... Maybe with time and patience have some sort of friendly relationship with your ex-partner, etc.