How do I let go of pent up anger towards an ex?

A good way to let out pent up anger is to find another outlet for that emotion. It could range from music to exercise to practicing a favorite hobby. What helped me is when I was in a bad breakup I wrote in a notebook all the anger and hurt I had towards that person and burned it in the fire pit in my backyard while saying out loud all the ways they had made me feel. By the time the notebook was in ashes I felt a sense of closure. It helped me get everything off my chest and regain my composure. It was one of the biggest steps towards recovering from that relationship.

It’s Normal to feel angry towards an ex sometimes. It’s not normal to hang on to that anger. Eventually you’ve got to put it behind you. Maybe the anger will still be there deep down but you don’t need to obsess over it and think about all the ways they have wronged you all the time. The BEST revenge is your success. Know that to be successful you need to be at peace with yourself and everybody else for that matter. We don’t have to like what others have done but it’s in the past and now is the time to take control of your future because that’s all we can control.

When it comes to ex's and feeling negative feelings towards them, that is completely normal. Depending on how the relationship ended, people tend to find different ways to cope. The best thing to do to let go of this anger is to distract yourself with doing things you enjoy (reading, watching shows, writing). Think about why you still feel such anger for the person, it is something that can be addressed? Try talking to someone and let them know how you feel, if it is really bothering you, maybe talk to your ex (if that option is available) and be honest with how you feel about them. Relationships are never something easy to get over, especially if you had very strong feelings for the person, and it is important to remember you are not alone. Understanding why you feel that way and addressing the people who are making you feel like this is the first step to forgiveness.

Write down on a piece of paper how you are feeling. Every single detail. Then rip it up, let this signify you letting go. You have poured your feelings and so there is nothing left to give. Take it as a learning experience and remember what makes you smile and do all the things you love. Life goes on regardless so don't waste any time on dwelling on any anger you have towards your ex. Remember, you are better than that. Don't let you ex have this much - if any power over you! Be the bigger person for yourself.

We've all been there. If it's not an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, it's an ex-friend. In my case, it was an ex-friend. We were friends for 9 years and when it finally fell apart, I was just so angry with her. We're usually angry with someone when we've been hurt or disappointed. I've noticed that. While I can't promise that you'll stop being angry with your ex forever, I can try to offer you some advice. Give yourself some space. Don't be around them physically or online. Give yourself time to think and feel. If you have all this pent up energy towards this person, its best not to direct your anger at them in a way you might regret. Do something productive. Try exercise. Do anything that keeps your mind off this person and redirect this pain into something positive. You need to move on. You can't be happy and angry at the same time.

Remember that it is okay to feel this way but you must let it go. Go to the gym, take a boxing class, sing or dance while thinking about all the things he has done to anger you and use your anger in a creative way. Write a letter to him but don’t send it unless you really want to. In the letter, write everything that he has done to hurt you. Use the letter to vent. Talking to friends and maybe even seeing a counselor helps. Go for a run when you feel angry, it will help you release the anger and make you feel more calm. Do some yoga and meditation to calm yourself.

Anger usually comes with a desire of a retribution of an idea of some justice. Unfortunately, that idea of justice is very subjective and it's not really something that will bring us peace. Looking for peace via this way comes from an immature point of view. Ultimately, what's done is done. If this person did something selfish or damaging, it talks really bad of them, but at least you are no longer tied to that person. It may have helped you discover something. Now you know what to avoid. As for you, to keep moving on, you need to let go of things you can't control. Don't lose time thinking of that anger, try to focus and what you want to achieve next and how to get there.

How do you let go of pent up anger towards an ex? On the surface, that can seem like a very complex issue, but what you really need to understand is that, from my experience, your ex isn't waiting around for your forgiveness. All that anger that you're holding onto isn't hurting them in the slightest. In fact, they don't even know it's there. The only person who's carrying the weight of that anger and sadness is you. So, while it's important to lean the skills of forgiveness for others, it's more important to learn those forgiveness skills for yourself. Set yourself free. Recognize that by forgiving him or her, you're giving yourself permission to move on and be happy.

The way I got over my hard feelings towards my ex was by writing him a letter. I simply said everything that's I was feeling. Then when I was done I ripped it up. It made me feel sooo much better.

Write a letter to your ex, and let everything, every little hurt, out and onto the paper. Just remember not to send it!