How do I let go of pent up anger towards an ex?

In my experience I just let myself be angry with them. I would recommend not being in contact with them during this time. After a while being angry just didn't seem like it was worth my energy or time anymore and I got over them. If you feel like your anger is lasting a unreasonably long period of time you may want try a different way of releaving your anger.

Anger is also a form of energy. So we love to express it. The thing is that, when we do so, we exert it on others or on things and cause harm to others as well as ourselves. The best thing to do is channel this energy to your desired work and let the anger help you to complete tasks that were impossible at normal times or you can use this energy on physical work like any martial arts, sports, dancing or music. This method of channelling not only helps to control anger but also avoids any damage caused by it.

When I feel angry, I like to listen to upbeat music that makes me feel empowered. Catchy girl band pop songs are my go-to. Gotta sing to it really loudly too. Add some dancing, and you can get out a lot of anger.

Realize that your worth is based on your opinion of yourself and not his/her opinion of you. Why are you angry towards your ex? You might have a really good reason! But you can't control how a person feels about you. Sure you can influence how they fell about you but if you base your happiness on how a person feels about you, you're risking your happiness on a volatile and an uncontrollable factor. Love yourself. If this person hurt you then move on and be grateful they aren't in your life anymore. If you invested into the relationship more than they did, then be proud of yourself because you did what you could and they will be missing out on a great person. Yeah it sucks that your effort wasn't reciprocated but you can make something as big a deal as you want or as small a deal as you want. The point is, you are in control and much more powerful than you think.

There are a lot of different ways to do this, but it's not going to happen over night. Most importantly you need to learn how to forgive. If you are still angry with your ex then chances are you never forgave them in regards to what has yo so angry in the first place. Most people like myself still holds onto anger or a grudge because they are things that were left unsaid that you feel like you can only let go of when confronting the ex or letting he/she know how you feel about everything. Take a step back, give your ex some space and if this is still troubling your heart/soul reach out to your ex. Let him/her know how you feel. However if they are with someone else, let it be known clear that you just want to be at peace and try to forgive and let go.

To get over my own anger I looked at why I was angry at my ex in the first place. I was angry that our relationship had ended and that he had cheated on me. By seeing where my anger came from I was able to move past it. I hadn’t caused him to cheat, he had made that decision himself and because of that our relationship ended. I also focused on living my life and enjoying it. By doing this I was able to see that my life was not over and that I could stop being angry about the mistakes he made. If I continued to be angry I was only letting myself down and stopping my enjoyment.

That's a hard question with a very hard answer. Depending on what your ex did, determines how long it'll take for you to let it go. Abuse takes a longer time to let go. Knowing that someone who was supposed to love you, hit you will leave you mentally messed up and it may take a longer time to forgive. Cheating may take a little bit to get over but it'll fade. Whatever the reason may be that is making you angry towards them, will not last forever. It may be hard to forgive them but you need to figure out a way to forgive them. It's your only chance of letting the anger go. The reason you are so angry is because what they did left you feeling betrayed and hurt. Forgive them and you will be free of the anger.

I've had some awful ex's in the past. I've been lied to and cheated on, sexually assaulted and used. I understand how angry and frustrating being mistreated can be in a relationship, or having held in resentment towarda an ex. Even if nothing of the sort went wrong you can still have those nasty feelings bottled up inside and it's okay. Theyre valid, as are you. For me, the way I got over my anger with my ex's, I wrote letters to them, on paper. Telling them everything I felt. Everything they made me feel. Then I ripped the paper into shreds and burned each shred, piece by piece. Sometimes just venting or talking to someone can help(even if it's the ex themselves), you just let out all of that negative(but valid.) energy until you don't have those feelings. The process of forgiveness isn't easy but it all starts with letting go.. 💕✨🌸

you avoid them . Because avoiding someone makes you forget about what they look like and how they treated you.Also if you replace those memories with a friend or going to the same place you have memories with an ex with your bestie, makes you remember only the good memory (for example when you visit this place with your bestie replaces the bad memory with an ex). That is only my opinion and what may work for some may not work for others. I hope it will help you at least forget about the bad memories that cause the anger :)

Say "I forgive you, Ex's name. And I release you to the universe." The anger will eventually dissipate.