How do I let go of pent up anger towards an ex?

What helped me so much when I felt so much anger at my ex was to write it all down in a letter to him. Saying everything I had been too afraid to ever say to him gave me closure. I recognized that the anger was a very important step in my healing and gave myself permission to feel it. You can then burn the letter to help you recognize the closure and cleansing of this step in your healing journey. It is important to remember that there is not anything wrong with anger and it is a very healthy response that we encounter in our healing process.

I can hear you carry this frustration towards your ex and you must remember all the times in the relationship where they did not treat you right or the things they kept secret from you. Relationships can end simply because two people are not compatible. They maybe too different personality wise, or have different ambitions , hopes , values etc. Sometimes it’s neither individuals fault - just a disconnection. We can remember that you ex is a just a person too, and even though they may have made mistakes or hurt you that may not make them a bad person. You may try to think about it through their point of view and know that they could be going through things you don't know or understand. Instead of thinking about why you am mad at them, try to focus on what you learned from the breakup and relationship, how you grew from it, and what they have taught you about my goals for future relationships. It maybe beneficial to confide in a friend who has been through the same thing as well. Research has shown DBT has been said to be helpful for any emotional regulation and for distress tolerance. 7 cups is a safe space to chat about what your going through with one of our amazing listeners who will use their active listening skills to try and understand what your going through whilst giving you the independence to make your own decisions at the same time.

If you find yourself wanting to let go of anger towards an ex-partner then it is probably because staying angry is not very helpful for you. Everyone has different ways of thinking and sometimes one might decide it is best to move forward on a separate path. Staying angry at someone else will hinder your efforts to move in a positive direction that will benefit you and those around you. While it is difficult at times to stay positive, your motivation to move forward in your life and take the viewpoint of optimism may just prove to assist in building healthy character.

Try a physical activity, maybe join the gym or try boxing. this will help you get channel the anger towards something that will not hurt anyone and it will help you get fit and in a better mental space. You can also try journaling about your feelings and sharing out all your emotions calmly. Another alternative would be getting clarity and clearing the air between you and your ex. This helps getting rid of any miscommunication that may be there, maybe your anger is misguided and talking things out will help you know exactly hoe to handle the situation. Personally I advise for the first option, get into a good activity and make a better version of yourself.

Most importantly by forgiving my ex and myself for those things that went wrong in the relationship. Further by taking into account that we are all human and none of us can ever be perfect. Lastly be sending a message of good will and best wishes for the future. This can mean things like being open to helping in the future and being there for your ex in troubling times. On the other care must be taken not to indicate that you are trying to renew the relation because your full intent was to bring it to an end.

Letting go of anger is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. One good thing to do is acknowledge the anger,. Remember it's ok to be angry. Express your anger on a positive manner its OK to say "I'm angry and this is why." Depersonalize it. What any one person says or does is always much more about them than it is about you. Learning to release your anger can often happen more easily when you take your focus off of the specific events that occurred. Heal it. Recovering from an emotional injury is not unlike recovering from a physical one. You need to rest and nurture yourself during the healing process.

Anger is the flip side of Love, a totally natural and very primal emotion that when addressed properly, can be healthy and cathartic to exercise out. The snag comes when we hold onto that anger for too long, or if we're angry at someone or something, no longer a part of our life. If anger has nowhere to go, and no healthy outlet to be released into, it can turn inwards and cause all kinds of trouble in our lives. As easy as it is to be told just to "let it go." the process itself can be very complicated and confusing. The most important aspect of anger is the resolution of it. Being able to forgive those who have angered us is just as much about giving ourselves peace as it is offering an olive branch. Like all emotions, developing coping tools for your emotional tool box is always a crucial aspect to effectively dealing with strong feelings. It should be noted that forgiveness certainly doesn't require forgetting, and if a person has hurt you, is toxic to you, or isn't an appropriate fit for your life, forgiving them doesn't mean you have to let them back in. Your wellbeing and mental health is always priority number 1! Some of the most effective ways to manage anger towards an individual no longer in the picture is to physically let them go, to do this I suggest a simple exercise with a very large impact. Write them a note with all of the reasons why you're angry, everything they did to hurt you, all of the feelings you feel and get it all out on paper. The idea isn't for them to ever read it, but for you to get all of your anger out and onto something physical, and when you feel ready, find a creative way to let go of both the letter, and your anger. You may want to tie it to some balloons and watch it float up and out of your life forever, have a bonfire and send that anger off viking style, or maybe you decide to make confetti and throw yourself a "letting go" party. Whichever you choose to do, keep in mind that as people with such wonderfully complicated lives, anger is a natural part of our interactions with other people. Striving for that anger to be healthy should be our goal, and taking time to get it all out and let it go in appropriate ways, can be just the thing needed to help get you back to your happy place. At the end of every dark night, there is the brightness of day. Be kind to yourself.

Anger is a very powerful emotion. It can control you so much to where you aren’t thinking like your regular self. Anger to an ex is an even bigger feeling. They have more than likely done something to make you this angry, maybe how they became you ex. I think the best way to get rid of all of your anger is to find plenty of distractions. Distractions can help you find things you enjoy as well as helping you forget about the anger you have towards your ex. Examples of distractions may be doing your favorite things, watching movies, or anything like that.

Letting go of pent-up anger takes a lot of time and effort. A person must go through a painful process to fully heal. Anger itself is hurting, and keeping it inside will make this feeling a lot worse. So, the first thing is to let go. Let go in the safest way. Acknowledge the hatred, and be aware of the possibilities while having this feeling. Control. Control the situation to avoid any further damage to oneself or to the people around. Second, find the safest / best way to release one's anger. Avoid creating a chain of actions while being mad because it will lead to disaster and regrets. Finally, accept. Accept that certain situations need closure within you. Whether the situation is confronted or not, the relationship ends for a certain reason, and anger is one of the byproducts. Pent-up anger is a double-cross- a ticking time bomb ready to destroy when triggered. Healing this emotion takes great time, power, effort, and a whole lot of intellectual and even moral strength. So good luck. You can do it. Travel, meet new people, and learn a new skill if you have the chance. This will take you somewhere. Your anger and your ex won't.