How do I let go of pent up anger towards an ex?

Emotions involving ex's can be really difficult to process and control but it's important to remember that they are also human. It may be enough to help or it may be also helpful to talk to them about your anger and they may be able to help you reduce it

One technique that I've developed for dealing with anger towards exes is to write them a letter, and as soon as you finish it, destroy it. You can say anything you want this way, and you'll be able to organize your thoughts in a clear and logical manner.

Understanding. I always tell people I help with relationships that it's not important whether or not you accept what has happened, but whether you understand what has happened. Once you understand why the situation has happened. Once you understand yours, as well as theirs, views and stances. Then one can release such anger and allow them to be who they are and continue to walk their path.

Remember that they lost an amazing person, and you are stronger without them. Also remember that the anger only hurts you, it doesn't help.

Forgive and forget. By letting so much anger build up toward an ex, you're letting them control your life, thoughts and emotions. Move on and move up!

The best way to let out your anger, write it down, repeat it to yourself, and most importantly talk about it with someone you can confide in. Another thing to think about which is hard for some, is to reflect on their own actions and if it had any effect on the relationship. When you can forgive and come to terms with what happened, then you can move on. Anger will only recycle feelings and can become toxic and unhealthy. By revisiting the last chapter and rereading it, you'll never write the next. Just remember that.

i try to work. do things i love the most, things i did when i had space from her. which doesn't involve her.

It takes time, but eventually you let go. You realize they're no longer part of your life and it's probably for the best. Give yourself time to heal, to feel the emotions that you are feeling. Realize there is no right or wrong way to let go of the emotions you feel towards your ex.

I'm still working on this myself. I find that the more I fill my life with other things that don't involve my ex, the more I am able to move past the anger. I think accepting some of the responsibility in the failure of the relationship has helped to. Realizing that there were two people that contributed to the mess that became our lives, helps me too. I can focus on how to make my next relationship better.

Realise that emotional reactions will not solve anything and that in time you must learn to release yourself from that anger. Anger is a binding chain, the sooner you stop being angry, the sooner you'll feel free