How do I let go of pent up anger towards an ex?

From my personal experience I believe the way to let go of anger towards an ex is to realize that there's no point in staying mad at them Because nothing I do is going to change the fact that I was broken up with And all that anger was only turning me into a bitter person, with other people as well. Even if I stayed mad at them, or tried to fix things to get them back, no matter what I did, it wouldn't change the fact that I was hurt, because of that person . Staying angry will change nothing. Unconsciously, at some level, the anger towards this person manifested in my behavior with others as well. And that was the reason I wanted to change. I also believe, anger as an emotion is felt when you care about something Ans when I became indifferent towards that person, I lost my anger. And how I became indifferent towards them? It took one small act on their part for me to lose all interest. For me, it was when I realised I was cheated on. And I said to myself, why do I care so much about someone that doesn't give the slightest of thought about my emotions and my getting hurt. It's time I stopped caring Because no matter what I do, it's not going to change anything.

It all depends on what the current situation is. I just broke up with my ex and the only way that helped me move on was to completely cut them out of my life. That means blocking his number and all of his social media accounts. The reason I continued to be so angry with was that I still was communicating and seeing him on my phone. You can't move on if you don't allow yourself to move on. You have to love yourself first and understand whatever that happened was not your fault. Fully understand that you did the best you could for that person and that sometimes things just don't work out. Don't let someone who hurt you continue to negatively affect your life. It's your life!

What caused the upset in the first place? Did your ex violate your boundaries or simply not show up when you needed them? Have you expressed the anger to them? Either way, is there some self-love you need to move past the upset? Are there friends you can make who can help you take the attention off your ex? What's the cause of the anger? Is your ex coming by and bothering you? Do you need to set firmer boundaries? Are you hesitant to set boundaries with him? Address that and you may be set free. Journalling helps too!

Remind yourself that they are no longer your responsibility and that the pent up anger will not benefit you in the long run! You are better than what the relationship was and the longer you stay angry, the harder it will be for you to continue to focus on yourself. Practice mindfulness to remind yourself to focus on the present and yourself as you are what is most important right now. Practicing self-care and finding the best way to relax is another step in the right direction. You are worth more than you'll ever know, so make your life count!

My favorite way to let go of pent up anger is doing kickboxing classes I can get on apps on my phone (pro-tip, FitOn is free). A little imagination goes a long way. I have found that getting my body moving and sweating AND getting out of my thinking brain can really help change my mood. I don't have to forgive the ex, but I don't have SUFFER forever. After your workout, definitely indulge in a little yoga before a meditation. Show yourself some compassion. Another option, if you're not so much into getting sweaty, is writing in a journal. Write about what your ex did to you. Write about how you felt then and feel now. Explore how it affects you now and in the future. Breathe deep.

I find that when I am very angry in a moment, it is best for me to step away and isolate myself from the situation. Typically I will engage in an activity that is calming to me such as singing. After I have sufficiently calmed down I like to talk to close friends or family members about what I am feeling so that I can better identify why I am feeling so angry. Once I have identified the reason for my anger, I will attempt to remove that stressor/cause from my current life, which may mean blocking an ex or putting them on mute for the time being. Whatever helps alleviate those feelings until I am truly able to move on from the situation and be myself again.

Try breathing exercises. And try to let go of the anger towards your ex. And possibly try to understand why you are triggered.once you identify the triggers . Then try to heal and understand your triggers. So you won’t allow yourself to get angry. Sometimes we can’t control what people do , but we can control how we react and allow ourselves to feel. Trying to stay calm within yourself may help reduce the anger. Also trying to forgive your ex so you can heal your feelings of anger. Try to not those negative feeling take control of the good in you. Express love and peace for you, so you reduce feelings of anger

For me, I think when you had bottled up all the anger and all of the negative feelings about someone, you should stand up for yourself and never stays in that kind of relationship. First is you must learn to let go and then move on at your own pace. Do not follow other people footsteps, because every person is built differently. Then you should focus more on yourself, make yourself busy doing things that will make you happy or healthy. You can do simple exercise or singing or even just reading and do nothing while listening to music. Then, comes the deeper part where you should learn to love yourself for who you are. I believe that nobody can love you before you learn to love yourself. There is no need to get angry and hit your ex, you should just FOCUS ON YOURSELF AND GLOW UP. That is the real best way to show to people that you are awesome, by yourself. You do not need someone to make you feel worthy, you just need to self-love and be the best version of yourself.

Building up any sort of feeling, whether it be negative or positive, can cause stress or frustration. Whenever I feel anger or any other strong emotion, I have to get it out somehow. Try and let go of that anger in a healthy way. I like doing something that really lets me blow off steam and express how I'm feeling. Maybe it's writing an angry poem, listening to loud music, playing a video game, or going out on a long run. Regardless, people who negatively impact your life don't deserve such strong emotions from you! Let those feelings go to something more productive!

It's valid to have pent up anger towards your ex. Anger is a sign that you know you were mistreated and something was not OK. But holding onto anger from the past hurts us more than helps us, and it is so brave of you for asking how to let go of it! There are so many ways to process releasing your anger, and it may be a process for you of trying what works out and letting go of what doesn't. You could consider writing a letter to your ex, and expressing all the anger and feelings, but never send it. Some people say they burn it, some rip it, some throw it away, but if you consider writing out your feelings, you can do what feels best for you. Another action you can take is receiving support. You're here seeking advice, and that's a great step. Receiving support in the form of having friends, family, or listeners on 7 cups to let you speak your truth and express your feelings is helpful. Lastly, consider looking into forgiveness. Forgiveness is a step that may seem to come after feeling angry with someone, but it can be thought of and considered during the healing process. You are heard and we are here to support you on 7 cups!